yes. And also one of my favorite thinkers who does the kind of work I think we both love Is Deseret Attaway of the AdAway group, but does a lot of work on whiteness at work. And she is like, have we noticed that in workplaces we aspire to this thing of being a family. But in families, there are adults and children. It is not all adults. Like why aren't we more suspicious of that? Like, isn't that sketchy family, families of origin are the site of so much dysfunction, discontent dysregulation, invisible nation on unseeing? And yet we're not like, Hey, can we check this analogy? Like this actually presupposes that there are people who get to make the rules. And then there are other people who get punished about them without a say, like, why are we aspiring to this? So I a resume completely from where I sit now. But it does, it is one of those slippery things when you're in an environment and it's like, maybe you go to a new office, and there's like a really good sense of team bonding that you see at first, and they're like, Yeah, we work together, and we play together, you know, we're really tight knit, like, everyone here really belongs and you're like, cool, I definitely want to be a part of that, then slowly, like the the more nefarious side, or just like shadows, or, you know, the sketchy toll of what is allowed inside of this family that is actually non negotiable starts to appear?