What are those types of people think about themselves? The people who are who are, I feel like they're more real, more compassionate, because, you know, these evil villain type people's people. They don't often exist, I don't think I don't think people are, you know, their cackling being like, Ah, I'm going to be judging every single person who walks by and I think everyone is unattractive and horrible. And there's not that many of those kind of just soulless people out there. I think most people are. Have compassion, right? And they might perceive that you've gained weight. But But I want you to think about how, if you saw a colleague, someone you cared about, whatever, might you don't even know them? And you notice that they had gained weight? Would you? It depends where you're on your journey, you might say, I'd be like, Oh, that's horrible, blah, blah, blah. And that's fine. That just gives us information about where you're at in your journey, and what work you need to do. Would you be thinking like that? Or would you be thinking, Oh, my goodness, I'm but that was really hard for them to come in. And, you know, I hope they're feeling okay. And, you know, what would you be thinking? And I would say, I was, you know, before the podcast thinking, what would I think? And my thoughts would be, like, selfish thoughts of, Oh, my God, I get a new cool fat friend, or, Oh, my God, can we share a wardrobe? Like, it's almost like, I would have gained something. Because I would see it as something cool and fun and exciting. But also, I wouldn't be saying that to them, because I know that they might be like, I don't feel good. You know, I wouldn't be rushing up to them being like, Oh, we can share our wardrobes now. Oh, my God, how? How big a year, you were, like, my size? You know, I just thought I would just be thinking like, oh, another one another one have another new cool, fun person. You know, that's what I probably thinking. And also be thinking, I hope that they feel okay. I hope they don't feel too stressed. I hope they know that. I don't think that they're bad. You know? So, and I think that that's what most people not necessarily the, I hope we can exchange close now. But most people are compassionate. They have levels of compassion, right? And they might have their own shit in regards to fatphobia. But what is the reality in regards to you know, the workplace? Is it going to be that kind of phone stopped ringing every When you know, if someone drops their coffee in shock when they see you is it that? And, by the way it's true. We live in a fat phobic society, right? I don't want to I don't want people to think that I'm not saying that we live in a fucking violently fat phobic society, we do. We do. Absolutely. And lots of people have compassion. So your perception of I'm stressed and worried and anxious about going into society as a fat person is based in reality, right? It's true. We've all seen, if you're fat, you know, we've experienced we've seen what it's like to be in a fat body. It's not fun, right? It's not fun. So it makes sense. So you're not being ridiculous by by saying, you know, or feeling nervous or anything. But also, you know, the two truths can be be, you know, two realities, at the same time is, is people can hold bias. And people can try and work towards being compassionate, as well. But, I mean, that might not be a reality, you might work with a bunch of balance. Like Vinnie, that'd be great if my colleagues had compassion, but they don't their decks. And in that case, then, you know, that really, really sucks. That's not fun. Yeah, and I wonder as well, what about those who are noticing you blossom into someone who's more peace with themselves if you are working on this stuff? You know, we we think about how people are noticing bad things about us, you know, quote, unquote, bad. But what if people are noticing the beautiful things, the beautiful things in regards to the acceptance that we're growing for ourselves? The don't give a fuck attitude that we're growing the resilience, you know?