I think this is such an interesting phenomenon. And a lot of trauma survivors will have these coinciding things that are seemingly opposite that exist together. And so when we're in our everyday life, and we're having a lot of hyper vigilance and fear about being rejected, or abandoned, or thought not enough, or not worthy or not a value that can lead to these experiences with overwhelm. And when we're overwhelmed, we have this flooding, typically of emotions, and it's hard to think and feel at the same time, we're disconnected with our executive functioning part of our brain, the prefrontal cortex. And the overwhelm can be really big, it can be really hard, and, and depending on your typical fight flight, freeze fawn response, you're gonna go into one of those four. The interesting thing is that, it's because I think when we are in the situation, we're in the middle of it, and it's happening to us, and we are impacted by it. Whereas when you encounter a crisis, a lot of times there's a, there's a switch in your brain when you've had trauma that can go into this commanding, Confident, Assertive directive mode, which means that we are awesome in crisis, which is delightful and lovely. And I think about how I've observed some of my friends do this. And it is because we are no longer in the middle of it being acted upon. Typically, when we see a crisis, there is this sense that we are observing it and we use our hyper vigilance to notice all these things. And then we become the actor and direct people or engage in activities that help resolve the crisis in a really effective way. But that's not the way we exist in our personal relationships. We tend to be more overwhelmed by those.