I thanks for that question for me. There, there was, there was two aspects that came up. One of, I would say the first one was around cultural scripts. And so when we when I was just I'm an attachment therapist, and so when you talked about attachment, they was like, Oh, I'm going to live in this space with Stacy. It's amazing. I love it, and I and I'm going to learn about it in a different way, because you're coming at it with a different lens and expanding it and focusing it on Asian Americans and immigrants, and so I was, I was really sitting with all of this and looking at it from my own upbringing and my own the messages that I carried. And what really struck me was with it to your point earlier, I felt compassion in a different way for my for my family. I, I would say, you know, I know a lot about attachment theory, my dissertation, all those things, attachment, attachment, attachment. And even then, I still hadn't, I still hadn't reframed this, their experiences in this way to consider patterns that have remained and that have continued to carry on throughout generations in my family. And so it brought a lot of compassion, and it honestly brought a lot of emotions up. Of it was like of an understanding I had a newer I had a different understanding of of them as people, as humans who are just trying to, like, figure it out. Felt really special, because I got to understand them as humans in a different way, what they had to navigate, what my grandparents had to navigate, and mybuelos and my buels, like, had to figure out that I just didn't sit with it in the in that way. And so the questions, the bridging the gap. You know, I'm going home for Christmas, and so I'm going to be bringing these questions. I'm going to be having some of these conversations. Because I think, as a family again, drama always. There's drama on some level in many family systems, and this kind of moves us away from the current, present, whatever shenanigans, and moves us into a space of reflection and curiosity and connection, because these stories, if they're not shared, they will die, right? They won't, they won't be transferred on to those that come after us. And so I it did give me, it gave me a lovely moment to be grateful for everything that my family has done, and then also just really understand the hardships that they had to navigate in ways that I don't have to worry about, or I didn't have to go through, because they did that right. And it's you talk about this in your book, too, of just the the sacrifice as many Asian immigrants, and, you know, sacrifice and just work to provide for for their families. And they do this in specific ways, and depending on the the time they emerged into this world and or immigrated into the United States, those those types of sacrifices looked different. The messages they communicated look different based on the level of need right for safety and security?