So prompts today to talk about emotional umbrellas. And if you didn't read the thread that led us here. We were in a thread, talking about being hyper empathic, not just feeling emotions and empathy towards other people in general but feeling other people's emotional kind of aura when they come into the room for some of it's not a couple of people or the people that we live with, or just the people that happen to be around us at the time. Some of us. Occasionally can feel like the vibe of the world. There's a book called The field by Lynn Taggart that talks about how there's a certain peak measure the frequency of the world kind of before big events like 911, they've noticed the frequency the background for some kind of background background wavelength dips. And then, steadies, kind of, and during that period. I think that might be what some of us feel when we feel that okay something there's a sense of foreboding something's about to happen. For some reason. When world events are going to occur that happens to some people to some of us so that's what emotional weather is if you weren't there for us. For that discussion it's feeling the strong presence of other people's emotions before they even name them. Some of us feel them physically in our bodies, some of them encountered them as like outside. Not really thoughts but we're having our own feelings and then suddenly there's another feeling there that's like, okay, where did that come from it's not something that's buried it's almost it feels almost like it's something that walked into a room if I thought sir inside the room of our had just walked in from outside where did that come from. So not like a buried feeling coming to the surface it feels like a foreign invader almost. And then you have people who just know of themselves and then they know that there's other fillings out there and that's how we've always experienced the world. And some of us listen to things like this and go, but everybody feels like that, and surprise, no they don't know they don't, that's largely I think why there's so much suffering in the world that there's so very few people that feel what other people are feeling because if they did, they would do these horrible things to each other. But you know, be that as it may, if you have this strong sense of yourself, you may be fine. Even with all this emotional weather and not be so confused, but not know what to do when you don't want to feel it, or when you've felt it, because you've wanted to because you welcome it. But now okay I'm done with it, how do I make it not be here anymore so that's what I want to talk about emotional umbrella, umbrellas, protecting you from the storm of the weather outside or at least separating you from it. If it's not, it's not always negative that you want to be away from it, it's just that you want to be just in your you. So, sometimes I get protection from it sometimes, I yield to it. Sometimes I fortify myself against it before it could be emotional, whether before I come in contact with it. And sometimes I want to be with it, and then there's also, if you get really advanced, where you're able to control how much of other people's, you know, emotional weather that you're feeling. You may get to a place where in your work whatever kind of therapy or coaching that you do, or whatever you end up doing in the world, you use just this extra sense that you have to guide you through things. And you may decide that okay when I'm done with a session I want to process all of that emotion out how do I get it back out of my body so that's what I'm going to talk about that I've learned how to do when I was 35. There's really no one scientific method that I went with here. There's really no one Eastern or African or Asian or ancient or First Nation
techniques that I picked up. I just respectfully gone to people and other cultures mostly people also teachings and learned different things and tried to apply them to my life. Mostly African, but nothing that's so unique to Africa that you couldn't find it someplace else. And so the first thing was just that I could make myself stronger by learning how to be empty. And when you hear that people think you're just talking about science, and what not science. I think you're talking about meditation, which is something that we can now measure what science, I think you're talking about silence, they think you're talking about being quiet in living in the moment and being present and it is all of those things, all those things can help you present mindedness if you're not into meditation, just learning how to be between thoughts and just have your mind, empty for a couple of seconds, something about being in that moment, and taking an intention into that creative silence, something about that helps me and strengthens me. As far as this is concerned. But there's also other senses. And I would say to go with, with others, whichever strength, whichever sense is strongest for you if set if the sense of touch is strongest for you, then learn how to feel your body being neutral of touch. For example, if you've ever tried the Sedona Method. They teach you that when your body is neutral, you're not aware of the different parts of your body. You're just kind of not aware of what they're doing. So, if you have sensation in your arm, and I'm saying half sensation in your arm because not everybody does. but if you have sensation in your arm normally, and your arm is at rest. Unless something's wrong or you're in pain, you're not going to be aware of your arm. So if you have a situation where you have neutral arms you have most of the time your arms are in a neutral state, you can use that as something to help you become grounded and to be a signal to help you create protection for yourself against other people's emotions. And the way that you'll be able to do that as whatever you pick to be your neutrality. When you go out into the world outside of whatever your safety zone is whether that's your room or your house when you come right before you go out into it. Use your senses to come back to that neutral space, and just reinforce your identity, just basically think about yourself just think about a picture of yourself. And then think about the neutrality of your, whether it's, you know, the way that your arm feels when it's not feeling anything. The way that smell smells when you're not smelling anything. If you can see the way that you see things when you're not really looking at anything, which can mean it's kind of weird right. What do you hear when there's nothing there. Silence, if you hear things for me. I have a hearing processing disorder and tonight is so that's not my strong point so I don't really know what it's like to hear silence anymore, not completely, but I do know what it's like to meditate so I use that. But you see what i'm saying whatever the neutral point is for whatever Sins of yours is the strongest and the concluding include taste to try that. And you can be unconventional with your, your touch to like the roof of your mouth. If you put your tongue against your mouth, and it goes back and forth just a little bit. It gives you a string sensation. And this is saying is a strange sensation.
That's not painful. It's not quite ticklish. It's pleasant, but it's not overwhelming. So it's a nice sensation but unique, so you can also use something unique if you can't find something neutral I know it's hard for people who are in pain to find something neutral. If touches their strongest thing. So find that thing, and just be in it for a couple seconds before you go out into the world. That way when you encounter people you encounter other people's stuff you have a home baseline to come back to anywhere that you are in the world, so that you know okay this is me, and all these other things are not me, and allow your, your body, your mind, your soul whatever is encountering all the emotions to reset a lot faster because it knows where to reset to. That doesn't make any sense, there's places in comments for questions. So that's one thing for protection of preparation. And that makes me stronger. And also, if I practice it, as I practice it every day after a couple months. The things that bothered me before as much didn't bother me so much anymore so that's one thing. We can go to the next item of protection. I like to make sure that I leave the house with something that also engages with the senses that's comforting to me. And that can envelop me like protection. You know some people don't go any, any place without their earbuds I'm one of those people. I always have to have music with me at the bare minimum earbuds, even if I forget see download music to my phone and I go somewhere place where there's no Wi Fi. At least I have the earbuds in my ear. And that gives me some barrier protection from whatever is happening around me. And just a signal to people not to intrude into my space. And you would think that. Okay. People aren't purposely directing their emotions towards you. So how does that help. Well, they're not purposely doing it, but in my experience, it feels like sometimes when people engage you is when their emotions come rushing at you if they if they don't know you. So, the earbuds do provide some of that protection for me as well. In the wintertime. Sometimes when I'm just into touch, having something soft in my pocket that I can squeeze or touch or feel. I've even sometimes had stuffed animals that I keep in my bed with me when I have to be at home a lot. And being able to just touch that soft, you know, soft little plush toy, just reminds me that I'm separate from whatever is coming at me. And that reminder just helps. It just helps me have kind of a semi guard up it's almost Pavlovian in that anytime I touched, just this one special plush stuffed animal, or sometimes even a blanket, this barrier goes up. This protection goes up, you know, it keeps me from letting everything rush inside of me. And I know it sounds right now but that's just not how it works but it's almost like having. It's almost like a conditioning a muscle. You look at a 20 pound weight a 50 pound weight and think, I can't lift that you're just. Why are you teasing me but then over time you lift one weight, one pound you'll have five pounds you lose 10 pounds and one day you just 50 is no big deal. So that's kind of where we're going with that. So, having something to pull around yourself I really like music because music can give you. Music allows you to select an emotion to be in. And it's very hard for other people to penetrate that wall of music if you don't want them to. And if there is no music in your headphones, you can sing a song in your head. It's a good song out loud you can home. Music is very powerful there's also smells. Smells evoke memory very well.
So if you can remember being simply safe, and you can associate that safety with a smell. And you can find one of those smells that's convenient to carry around with you. It becomes one of your guardians. I like the smell of chocolate chip cookies and have the top of a baby's head. So like I like to have baby oil and I'll put it in the inside of my wrist and smell the baby oil and I look like I'm scratching my nose but I'm smelling the baby oil I don't need everybody to know that I'm treating myself in public. So I'll smell a baby oil and I'll feel better and the emotions will back up from me a little bit. It's not always a complete fix, but I'll have enough space to myself to get myself together. Then there's processing emotions out which is a little bit trickier. People who were people who were used to emotional weather, and people who have discovered emotional umbrellas on their own. You might get to a point where you see the advantage of empathy and think of yourself as like the empath from Star Trek lead generation who of course I can't think of her name right now. But you might think of her as you know she's this person who Deanna troi, she can counsel other people she can use her gift in her career. Not to manipulate people but to guide them and to help them with their permission. So, you know this about yourself, and you use that gift but then at the end of using that gift. It takes a lot of energy, of course, and then you're left with like this emotional hangover, because you've got the labor of, you know, consuming the energy that comes with knowing your emotion from the other person's emotions and also not projecting your emotions into what's happening. And you've got the maintaining the separation between your gear stuff in their stuff, attending to and paying attention to what they need and what they're feeling and not overruling what they're saying. With sometimes what's an obvious contradiction and what they're feeling it's a lot of work, a lot of times people's feelings are way, way louder than what they're saying. But if you speak to them in their emotions, too quickly they get very offended because this is subconscious coming out of them. And they're not projecting that on purpose so they don't know that, you know, you already know what the bottom line is, it can be very confusing for people when you a person who's not inside their head tells them the truth about them it's not, you know, it's not a comfortable feeling. But if they've given you permission to go exploring with them and then you. You know, if you jump too fast that can ruin the trust relationship but when you've got this kind of a thing down and you know if you're trained in therapy or coaching or what have you. And you've got the other person treated at the end, you still or if you know you're best friends with somebody who understands all what's going on and you've helped them like figure out a minor problem. At the end you still have this emotional hangover. And then you may still have some of their emotions kind of blocked inside you. And so then becomes the question, how to process them out. And this one meeting depresses the emotions out also happens to other kinds of people who are empathic who just have no idea that they're in the emotional storms of other people and don't know, like, okay, all of a sudden I was walking along I was happy and then I got a whiff of sadness and now I'm confused. processing. And I use the word processing because that's it's, it's like a. Think of it like a recycling plant processing starts with. First the grounding process. Knowing this is me. This is them, whether you use protection and then protection and then the reminder through touch. Or if you're just able to, you're at the point where it kind of happens automatically for you. So once you're centered in your neutrality.
Then you're going to want to identify what is the leftover emotion in your body that doesn't belong to you. And then you also want to look deeply into with. I like to talk about it with my therapist, when I can. Could this emotion have come from something that I myself buried, you know, because it isn't always of other people's emotions it's sometimes it's somebody else reminded me of an emotion I already have. And it increased in volume. But the reason I can usually tell the difference is that I usually get a slow increase in my own thing and I can feel how my energy is different, and on my knee wavelengths, rather than all of a sudden have something bustin that's completely different like I have my me energy is kind of like a jazzy hip hop. So, all of a sudden I feel like a rock sensation I know that's not me like I'm just not, you know, I have my metal moments but generally, I'm more of a jazzy hip hop kind of a frequency or two. So I feel that other two. And let's say I'm angry for no reason, have been perfectly fine I've had a good day and feel that there's anything that I should be angry about. And you know, I've done as much work on myself as I possibly can. I can't figure out what the source of this anger is and I know they need it. There's no, nothing, no other cause that could be, to my knowledge than from some place outside. So I look for something in my, look for an energy that could match that emotion, and I use that activity that matches that energy to get it out of me. So, anger, I can usually quell my own anger by doing some jumping jacks or something or taking a walk. So, to get anger out. I'll find, you know, an angry song. I'll yell, I'll punch a pillow. I'll sing Chester Barrington system from that movie Leah was in, Queen of the Damned. I'll yell that at the top of my lungs and, you know, five minutes later I feel better, because I've expelled. Whatever it is that I thought that was that was anger out of my system. So I'll do a little bit more detail on the emotional umbrellas another day, but just to give a summary. It's about finding. It's about protection, first of all, finding what your neutral place is with your senses when you're empty How can you empty yourself out so that you do not feeling anything but know that that that blank slate, is you. Then when you go out into the world you want to be able to have some Totem some emotional. Not really emotional some sensical Totem to remind yourself of your uniqueness and, of being separate from all the emotional things around you something that will allow you to protect yourself with your own layer of chosen emotion if possible. And then when you also have the offsets the option of processing out emotion, and I highly recommend this for people who use emotional their their empaths in their their empath abilities in their emotional work processing out emotion by finding something physical that has an equivalent vibe to whatever emotion that they're experiencing and finding an activity that will kind of wash that emotion out from their body and doing that activity, until the emotion is washed away. So, I'm going to put this audio up on my coffee and hopefully you guys will be able to read this and the transcript there and have a beautiful day, wherever you are.
