So the reason why I wanted to do this podcast is that I also if anyone is listening, the notion of correcting pronouns, and this I do have a big problem with and it's why it's been going round in my head and this is exactly what these podcasts for. Now, why do I not like people correcting a pronoun when the person who has the pronoun preference is not in the room? That person might have shared their pronoun with you because they were in a safe space to do so. And to correct a pronoun outside of a context where you are talking about them to correct that person from a conversation you don't know if the person you've corrected is unaware of their preference and inadvertedly you could be outing somebody. Now if you're just using conversation and you know that person and you know their preferred public pronouns, you should use them when you speak to them. But I and if the person who hears you goes, Oh, I, yes, I misgendered let the person who misgendered correct themselves, or step away and maybe question the person they see next time. But I do have a problem with people correcting pronouns when the person isn't there. Does that make sense? And it came, it started go round in my head, because there's recently been a Netflix show where the it was a an actor, playing a queer character. And they were vilified on social media for being a straight actor playing a queer role. And it was because of that announcement and that social media attention that they got, they felt that they had to come out and out themselves in a way that they wouldn't have outed themselves publicly if the social media for all hadn't happened, and I think this is something that that I think about, probably more than I should because I'm always worried about what other people think or how I'm seen by people and whether they'll remember me. I mean, this is one of the things for me, I always assume that I'm, I'm on I'm on rememberable. And so every time I go back to a place I'm always quite surprised when people remember who I am. I'm even more surprised when I encounter people and they say that they've spoken about me. And if they spoke about me and they use she well because I'm female presenting and I don't have any gender dysphoria. I think this is the thing. I don't have gender dysphoria. Some people who would like to state pronouns are in a transitional phase. There is this sense that there there is a dysphoria and to put them in a position to question their pronouns, either when they're there, they haven't offered them or when they're not there. And then someone goes and asks them, I think there's a lot of consideration we have to take as allies of how we protect that ally ship when we're not in their presence, because when we are in their presence, they spend most of their time amongst allies and amongst friends, and amongst like minded psychology. And if you operate outside of that psychology, you could be in a position where you are outing a friend without realising because they haven't yet felt comfortable to make that step. And I think that's, that's just something that I really wanted to put in a podcast because in the in the event that it does get listened to so the ChatGPT one is the one that's at the top of the list. It's the one that's been listened to most. So when there's things that are kind of resonant to the world. it probably gets picked up by, it probably gets picked up by the algorithm.