Generally speaking, and the resentment, revenge and self pity, are disastrous modes of thoughts, self pity gets pretty close to paranoia. And paranoia is one of the very hardest things to reverse, you do not want to drift into self pity. I have a friend who carried a big stack of Lenin carts about this thick. And when somebody would make a comment that reflected self pity, he would take out one of the cards, take the top one off the stack and hand it to the person. And the card said, your story has touched my heart. Never have I heard of anyone with as many misfortunes as you? Well, you can say that swaggering. But I suggest that every time you find you're drifting into self pity, I don't care what the cause your child can be dying of cancer, self pity is not going to improve the situation. Just give yourself one of those cards. It's a ridiculous way that we ate. And when you avoid it, you get a great advantage over everybody else, almost everybody else, because self pity is a standard condition. And yet you can train yourself out of it. Of course, the self serving bias, serving bias, you want to get out of yourself, thinking that what's good for you is good for the wider civilization, and rationalizing all these ridiculous conclusions based on this subconscious tendency to serve oneself is a, it's a terribly inaccurate way to think. And, and of course, you want to drive that out of yourself, because you want to be wise, not foolish. You also have to allow for the self serving bias of everybody else, because most people are not going to remove it all that successfully. You don't condition being what it is, if you don't allow for self serving bias and your conduct. Again, you're a fool you just aren't common. I watched the brilliant Harvard Law Review, trained general counsel of Solomon loses career. And what he did was when the CEO was aware that some underling had done something wrong, the general counsel said, gee, we don't have any legal duty to report this. But I think it's what we should do. It's our moral duty. To stem the general counsel was totally correct. But of course, it didn't work. It was a very unpleasant thing for the CEO to do and he put it off and put it off and put it off and due course weather thing eroded into a major scandal and downwind to see on the general counsel with him. The correct answer in situations like that was given by Ben Franklin says if you would persuade appeal to interest, not the reason, a self serving bias is so extreme. If the general counsel said look, this gonna wrapped up in something that will destroy you take away your money, take away your status, it's a perfect disaster. It wouldn't work. You want to appeal to interest? Yeah. You want to do it have lofty motives, but But you you should not avoid appealing to interest. Another thing, perverse incentives, you do not want to be in a perverse incentive system that's causing you to behave more and more foolishly or worse and worse. Incentives are too powerful a controller of human cognition and human behavior. And one of the things you're going to find in some modern law firms is billable hour quotas. And I could not have lived under a billable hour quota of 2400 hours a year. That would have caused us problems for me, I wouldn't have done it. And I don't have a solution for that for you. You'll have to figure it out for yourself, but it's a significant problem. perverse associations are So to be avoided, and you particularly want to avoid working directly under somebody you really don't admire and don't want to be like. It's very dangerous. We're all subject to control to some extent by authority figures, particularly authority figures that are rewarding us. And that requires some talent. The way I solved that is, I figured out the people I did admire, and I maneuvered cleverly without criticizing anybody. So I was working entirely under people I admired. And a lot of law firms will permit that if you're shrewd enough to, to work it out. And your outcome in life will be way more satisfactory, and way better. If you work under people you really admire the alternative is not a good idea.