She just unfortunately passed last year. But Lorraine was one of those people who if you had a good idea, she would run with you with it. I mean, she'd fight anybody to get it done. And I She was my ally and getting this done. And it was like itself, how do you lead yourself to good action? And I'm not going to go through a lot. But that's the whole point. Could the officer has the ability to see where he was? See this group of people look at his environment, and then lead himself to the Action Memo that would have occurred. Goodwin a totally different thing. And, and I hate to do it in this way, but it's the only way we can understand it. In the young man, Mr. Roof, I believe his name was our of and at mmabatho. When he shot the people in prayer at their prayer meeting, when the cop policeman took him to jail on the way they asked him if he if he was hungry, and he said yes, and so they bought him a hamburger before they took him to jail. That is public kinship. Because the policeman evidently looked at him as his son or his nephew or someone that he he could relate to. So he was worried if he left Memphis was worried if you'd kill them, but he said he was worried if you were hungry. I may I will put a fine point on that. I'm stating so you can see the balance between public kinship and non kinship and how you treat people and how people are treated. So self leadership is the first one a scan that environment second is suspension of judgment, but not of common sense. Now I actually got that from my my daughter's because suspension of judgment simply means that you know, you suspend all your your ideas about someone is horrible, just by looking at them. And you know, and then you try to work something out. But don't lose your common sense means don't bring me anybody don't bring anybody home, just because you're suspending judgment. Don't tell me what you told me. I could like anybody. Yeah, I did that. I didn't say you could, like the first criminal you see walking down the street, that is not what I meant. So don't lose your common sense. And it's the same way with this. Don't, don't, don't, don't go overboard. But the point is, you've got to suspend some judgment in order to say, Okay, I don't know what I like these people. So we're going to have to suspend that judgment for a while until you can figure out how to even scan that environment to see what that's all about. So it's that relinquishing those previous ideas we have had about a group of people third, ethics in the development of a moral mind. That sounds very highfalutin. And yet it is not. The moral immoral mind to me is that we all have a mind and a mindset. And we all we don't understand it. I've been reading psychologist and psychiatrist for about teen years just trying to get a grip on the mind and the conscious and the subconscious. Even though I know a lot of them don't like Freud, I actually am a social scientist. So I don't like Freud, in parts. But a young Yong is even better. But the point is, the moral mind is creating a vocabulary that supports the development of moral action. So by that, I mean, if I am able to create, in my mind, a mindset of doing good action, and good. So I say good work with people, I can, in my mind, create, if you've ever done if you've ever done, for instance, when I first started doing my, my dissertation, I was trying to figure out well, I am have to get this thing done. And I finally had to get into a zone where I created a language that said, I will finish this, no matter what it may kill me, no matter how many times dr. Broad sends me back with this sheet of paper, I'm going to do it, I'm going to go back, I'm not going to cry, like I did the first few times, I'm going to go back, and I'm going to give it to him. And he's gonna give it back to me, and I'm going to give it take it. And in my mind, I was creating this, this, this, this engine of I can do this, I will get this done, and I will be finished. And when I finished, he said to me in the most I guess it's the most New York way of saying things, then talk it. And I'm like, that's all I get after three years of this. Good job kid. Okay, well, I took it and ran because it was what I'm waiting for. But in my mind, I had to create my own moral engine for getting there. Because I couldn't you can't allow yourself become very angry, I know people quit, they stopped, they just couldn't take it not because they were doing anything to them. But they kept feeling something was being done to them. A moral mind allows you to develop moral action for yourself. And that was very important community. Then fourth is taking a stand on that moral actions you've created in your mind, the two of you have created a moral action, you wouldn't be doing this, if you hadn't. You could be doing many things. I don't know where you live, but you'd be fishing could be doing anything. But you have created a moral concept in your head of this is who I am Michael, this is who I am, Steve. And when I leave here, this world, this is my epithet, you will know me by my work by what I have done. And this is a moral epithet moral language, you took a stand and you took that stand by doing the things that you're doing are taking extra time to help me to get my computer set up. So I wouldn't have a lot of glare. And it seems like a lot of strange little things that you're doing. But you see, I think sometimes we forget, it is a strange little things that at the end of life add up to the big picture of who you were, as a moral individual. I don't think I know people who knew Dr. King, and they said he was wonderful. But Dr. King didn't grow up thinking he was a moral leader. He was a little boy who did things all boys, you know, did and his parents got after him. You know, he was, you know, he wasn't Reverend Dr. King every time he saw me to 814. But he was building a moral life. And they would tell you this when it was a friend of mine, he was always a little different. And I think by that she probably meant he was more but the family was like that as well like was being molded by that. Next is...