Did I did I achieve that? Yes, I did. Have I achieved lots of things in my life. Yes, I have. It's confidence building, right? And people might say poopoo it and be like, Oh, well, it's just walking towards a, you know, desk and signing in. No, that's a big thing. It's a big thing, you've moved a step forward. And so, a lot of times people really struggle with this, we struggle with this stuff. Because they look at the whole picture they look at, oh my god, what you know, like, say they're, you know, a goal is to find a partner. They look at the whole all of it, like, oh my god, what about the first day? What would I wear on the first day? And oh, what if the when, when? When do we care? And, oh, I want to get married, maybe they don't want to get married. And you know, it's like, Listen, this will get ahead of ourselves here, let's just think about logging into OkCupid. You know, that's all you'd have to worry about right now. Because if you are thinking about the whole thing, and it's getting stressful, then it's not helpful, right? And remembering, you know, when you're starting something new, and you're doing something different, if you've if you've hated yourself, or your body for a long time, doing things in the realm of loving yourself, and asking for your what what you want, and expressing yourself is scary as fuck, Ray, Isn't it scary as fuck, because it's brand new. Anything that you're doing that's brand new, is really difficult, really, really difficult. And that's to be expected. But the more that you do it, the more that you get out of constant learning mode and take action, the more that it's going to just be second nature and easy peasy, lemon on mine. And so let's break down the this even further. Okay, so what now we want to do is make it into a SMART goal. So if you've not heard of this, this acronym before, SMART stands for specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound, let me repeat that make it a SMART goal, which stands for specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time bound. And so when I see a lot of times, people will have goals, and their goal will be I just want to feel better. I'm like, great. What does that mean? How will you know that you've achieved that? How can you take action on such a giant thing? You know, it's just, it's not going to happen. And so if you have a goal of I just want to feel better. You know, it's not gonna happen, right? Because how the hell are you going to do that? How are you going to do that? You know, is a kind of break it down further. What does that mean? How can you quantify it? So we use the example of I have negative thoughts all day long. And then we've got the opposite statement. Positive thoughts or no negative thoughts? And then a goal, a kind of rough goal of for one day catch three negative thoughts. and dissect them. And so let's make it take it even further and make it a SMART goal. And so this is what a SMART goal could look like. On September 5, between 10am and 1pm, I will catch three negative thoughts and dissect them by writing in my notebook. One, why might I be thinking this thought to where this thought came from? Three, what things in my life support this thought for? What is an alternative belief. So that is a small goal. Let me repeat it. On September 5, between 10am and 1pm, I will catch three negative thoughts and dissect them by writing down in my notebook one, why I might be thinking this to where it came from three, what supports this belief? And four, what is an alternative belief? Now, is that achievable? Now we want? Yeah, I think so. You know, it might be a bit, you know, you might be saying that sounds like, you know, three sounds like a lot, that's fine. between 10am to 1pm. That sounds like a lot, that's fine. You can collect, you know, the sometime on September the fifth, and we're going to catch one negative thought, you know, and so you want this goal to be attainable. But we want it to be stretching you enough so that you feel a little bit like, oh, a little bit uncomfortable, right?