A Mystic and an Almost-Love: The One Who Got Away, Day 1

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Guess what, this week we have an incredible series. We're calling it the one who got away week with an open heart, a little dash of stardust, and a whole lot of love. These episodes are going to be off the charts. Today we're

jumping right into the deep end and exploring exactly that. I'm Alicia Ryan.

And I'm Sara Wintel. Welcome to lovestruck daily where we bring you love stories and good feels every day. I'm in love with you I'm in love with you. Alicia, do you ever Facebook stalk people? Do you ever look up people who used to be in your life and see what they're up to?

Oh, 100% Right. Is that don't ever doesn't everybody

needed my Facebook in cleaning team? My personal Facebook? I still question one that is just there. But I deleted my personal Facebook. But I do confess that I do use my husband's LinkedIn to log in and look for people

unlinked in. Yeah. Is LinkedIn stalking a thing? I did not realise that was oh, LinkedIn.

Stalking is very a thing. Oh, about LinkedIn is much like Facebook. Facebook knows who you're looking at. But LinkedIn will tell you who looked at

you. Oh, wow. Yeah. So it's funny. We have a family member who is notoriously private about his life, which means that we're all very interested in his life. To know everything we can. And so somebody said to me, like, Oh, I think he's dating a girl. Her name is Emily. And I was like, done. What? Three through in 10 minutes. I had Emily's Facebook, at LinkedIn, I had her ever. I was like, I found newspaper articles about this girl when she played baseball, you scare me. I am a little too good at fighting. Like if you give me like even happening. You know, it's like, you can give me half a licence later. I mean, I don't need that you give me like one badge with their name on it. And I will find you everything about this. It's like,

you can really learn a lot from someone social media posts. The main thing

I used to use my power for my power was sort of vetting people before I went on dates with him. And I will say I checked in on chi before I went on a date with him. And all I found was like, super wholesome stuff. And I was like, This can't be real. Not surprising. Yeah. Not surprising at all. And but it was funny, because we're talking about wedding clothes. And he's he wants to wear an African gown for our ceremony. And so we were looking at them and I said, you know, not really thinking I was like, you know, what happened to that blue one that you used to have? And he looked at me and he goes, What are you talking about? I was like, No, I used to have a blue one. You weren't to like a baptism or something. I mean, it's like, how do you know that? That was 14 years ago? That was my niece's christening. And so I told him and luckily he took it in very like good natured stride. Also not surprised.

I just wanted it was like the second picture that popped up when I put in his name, so I don't know,

listeners, you can't see us but I want you to know I am so read right now. I am dying of secondhand embarrassment

on that very mortified note. Oh my God. We are starting our discussion on the one who got away. Today we've got guest Sam Martin joining us on the show to tell her story about a loss love she's always kept in our heart for years. And to help her figure out what to do. We're inviting Gary boundary onto the show. Gary also known as gangsta Gary is the host of the mystic moments podcast. Please welcome Sam and Gary.

Sam and Gary, thank you so much for joining us on the show today. I am very excited.

Gary, welcome to the show.

Tell me what do you do? Tell me everything.

Thank you for having me. My name is Gary. I have branded myself as a spiritual consultant. What I like to do is work with people through tarot cards, oracle cards, Reiki healing, candle healing is another modality that I like to use. But basically, it's just like to move through whatever blockages we have in our day to day lives and just allow ourselves to feel a little bit more connected to who we are at our core. Yeah.

Sam, tell us what is your story. You have one that got away.

I do have one that got away in 2018. I was doing some internships out here in Los Angeles. I'm from Michigan originally. So I was sort of just floating around. I was sleeping on my brother's floor on a $100 mattress and just sort of running around town and I just on a whim decided to download Bumble as one does. And I ended up chatting for about a week with this guy named James. And he is hit me up on like a Friday and was like, Hey, I'm flying back to the UK forever. Tomorrow morning. Do you want to get a drink with me today? And I when I was younger, I was very shy and it really put myself out there. So I think this was maybe the second ever online date that I decided to go on. And we just went to this little bar just down the road from me just absolutely ended up hitting it off fantastically. And then he he went back to England and we exchanged Snapchat for the next like year. We just sort of stayed in touch. And like I mentioned, I was like very shy when it came to relationships and like reaching out to people putting myself out there. So he was sort of like, my sounding board for like a year I'd be like, hey, like, can I ask your advice on this? So what do I do? Um, so we sort of had this really interesting, like, friendship, but we were still into each other's we were sort of chatting. So we lost we lost touch, but I'm so he had no, I was just very grateful. He was always just very sweet. And just sort of like my biggest cheerleader when it came to all things like relationships and dating. Yeah, I really regret letting things fall off. So he's definitely sort of one of my ones that got away.

Sounds like you had this wonderful moment where he was leaving. You were like, What the heck. Can you make this wonderful connection?

Absolutely. Yeah, he was in a British too. I mean, what more can you ask?

So you haven't been in touch with him since 2019?

Correct. Yeah, we I got locked out of my Snapchat. Oh, I think he also got locked out of his Snapchat. So we sort of lost that. And then we were on Twitter together for a little bit, but then his Twitter's gone. So I'm like,

I don't know, I don't know how to find you.

Maybe Maybe someday we'll cross paths again. But but not in the snapshot universe.

If you could connect with him? What would you want to say?

Oh, that's a great question. I think I would just sort of love to tell him like how far I sort of come from like panic texting him and being like, this, like, I think I like this person. What do I do? I think that I am in a much more stable place. Now when it comes to relationships and being able to connect with people. And I mean, obviously, he's in England. So like, that's very far. But I mean, in a perfect, perfect world, I'd want to reconnect, I don't want to sort of thank him for all of his support, and to sort of reestablish that that great friendship, relationship, whatever it was that we had for so long. Yeah.

Gary, tell me, what, what is your practice?

Yeah, a lot of the work that I like to do is like Higher Self activation is what I call it. So like, how do I activate the best version of myself on my day to day journey? And sometimes we need a little bit of encouragement in order to be able to do that. And I feel like sometimes what I get to provide is that space for people to have a sounding board. Yeah. So it's like, I get to help people really just take their own power back on their own sense of freedom and get to read navigate that path with that new sense of clarity that they gain after sitting with me.

Yeah. And in SAM, it sounds like this person served for you as this sort of momentary guide and encouragement in a time when you really need it, I can understand wanting to reconnect. So let me turn this over to you, Gary, to see what the cards have to say about this situation.

Ah, I'm so excited.

And now we're going to take a quick break, but don't go anywhere because the story will continue.

As you were talking about James, and when you like first spoke about the conversation that you all were having via Bumble. It was like you know how sometimes when you get a little like, anxious, you feel it in like your chest. Like, it's like this sense of like, oh, like butterflies are flying. Like I'm feeling like a little bit of like this Oh, in my, in the pit of my stomach. That was the feeling that I got when you started mentioning him like being a part of your life. And I don't know if that was what you all's relationship was like when you first met, but I felt this sense of like, there was a sense of anxiety or a sense of a little bit of like, oh, like, I don't know what this is going to bring like it's a new endeavour. It's something that I've never tried before and maybe this could go wrong, but it feels so right. And I want to lean into it.

I was very close to cancelling I was very I like locked up to the bar. I was very, very close to just like, walk it away. But But I sort of did that was one of the first times that I sort of just like took that step. I was like, No, you're going on this day, you're not going to be scared. So that definitely makes sense that you got that feeling in regards to the situation.

What's so crazy is as you were speaking and as I was like shuffling cards because I like to prepare in that way the first card that came up with open up, he literally allowed you to open up in a way that you had never opened up before. And he allows you to see the light within yourself. It allows you to also like is he the first part is one of the first few like male entities that you have spoken to in a way where you could completely just be raw and be Sam and be yourself without worrying about how it was going to be received. It was like he was the he was kind of like a practice run, essentially, for you to be able to open up emotionally, and be available in a way that feels comfortable for you without overthinking what the response is going to be. Does that sound accurate?

Absolutely. It was sort of like there wasn't, there wasn't this pressure to to be in an actual relationship, obviously, because he was so far away. But I was sort of like, Hmm, he's listening to me. And he's very sweet. And I just made me feel very comfortable and very able to just talk to him about whatever, obviously, that's definitely accurate.

In your mind, it was like, oh, like, I'm getting to know this person, they're getting ready to travel. Like, I don't have to worry about like getting dressed up to like, go see them, like et cetera, et cetera. It was like this relationship where you really just got to be yourself without all of the bells and whistles that comes with dating. And I feel like this was a an opportunity for you to realise one, which I'm not necessarily sure if you've ever really realised how you get to open up with men, people in that way, you know what I mean? Like, you get to open up in partnership, and feel comfortable allowing yourself to really just like unzip what's behind the surface, and let people see what's going on underneath. This was helping you to see different sides of yourself that I don't know, if you absolutely had like been tapped into and like, able to bring to the surface without judgement, right? Because sometimes as we are getting deep into like, our emotions, we tend to feel a little reserved a little like, oh, like, I don't know, if I should be opening up like this, and cetera, et cetera. But it was an opportunity for you to also observe those various forms of yourself. And he also got to see that in regards to you as well. And then the last card that comes up for this section is about resting and reconsidering, right. So it gave you an opportunity to just like rest, reconsider what it is that you want out of partnership, and reconsider, also, like with James was a great catalyst. But was he the one in that regard, he didn't live in the same city, as you also know that you weren't trying to, like move 100% Like across the world, like that wasn't necessarily something you're trying to hop into. But it also was an opportunity for you to take a step back and reconsider what was important for you, when it came to partnership, what was important for you, when it came to opening up, what was important for you, when it came to relationships and how you wanted to grow? Those types of relationships and other connections that you have made down the road, you know, I have a feeling he could pop up when you least expect it. You know, that's always how it happens. Sometimes when you these expected, the person who you haven't spoken to, in quite some time, reappears out of nowhere, just to be like, hey, like I thought about you, I came across your number came across your email, and they can pop back up something to say and yeah, okay, so at the very bottom of the deck, the solar plexus chakra is coming up. And this normally has to do with like a person's identity. And I feel like maybe you helped him realise things about himself that he had never thought of, that he had never processed. And this may be something that you open up within him, where he was also recognising maybe he wasn't as ready for partnership, or just like to really be out there and himself in the way that he may have presented himself as and he could have taken some time to take a step back to figure that out as well.

Wow,

I'm like, I'm feeling very emotional. I hope that I helped him discover something, because he helps me a lot. So I'm like, it's very good to hear that perhaps I helped him in this in a similar way.

Well, I don't think anyone would answer all of your requests for advice without themselves being changed. I'm sure he felt very honoured to help you figure out how to become who you are. I would be if I were in his position.

Absolutely. And I was gonna say like, I think that that may be a question that you also have had, was I impactful for him the way that he was for me, like, did he receive from me in the same way that I received from him. And I feel like all of this was helpful for both of you all, in that sense of like, really growing into the people, you see yourself truly being. And I feel like you've grown as a human being, you know what I mean, you've grown as a strong person and being able to just like, not get in your way when it does come to putting yourself out there because you did say that this was like a couple of years ago, and I'm sure you've gone on lovely date since then met some wonderful people since then. And also just like grown as far as you and your light, and your purpose. And just like also being able to allow other people to see that light as well. So I feel like you helped develop that in him, and he may not have had the words for it. But you definitely can rest assured that there was something that was exchanged. That helped him to be so much more secure in who he is today, as well as your own security as well.

Amazing.

Sam, do you think you're gonna try to find him? Do you ever search for him every now and again, every now and then but his name is very generic. He's like, Sam Jones Smith.

Yeah, not too bad. Not too far off. I don't I guess he probably remembers me. I guess I can find out.

There's no question.

There's no question.

No question. He remembers you. And Gary, you said earlier that you know, people bring themselves into your life and the universe works in strange ways. So maybe we are speaking into the universe and invitation for him to find you.

I hope. So. That would be very convenient. But my name is also very generic. So if you're able to find me,

well, I hope that I hope that you cross paths, again, somehow, especially is just what I love about this misconnection. And this one that got away is that basically you want to say thank you, you just want to express gratitude for someone who helped guide you into where you are now. And it's lovely to recognise and thank the people who have helped shaped you, even if it was just a moment, and not a long time.

Yes, absolutely.

I wanted to throw one last thing in here, because the spirits was talking, the last card that came up was actually the love card. Oh, my. And it came up in reverse. So what this kind of like signifies for me is there was a sense of love in that part in that friendship and that connection. And what came up was like, Have you ever taken some time to just like, write an email, like write a letter to just like, express how much appreciation how much love you have for James like, even if it's just for yourself? Have you ever tried that before?

I haven't. But that sounds like a really good idea.

I think that would be a really wonderful just like practice for you. And so it's like bringing in that love for you. And also just like bringing that love that love of yourself and that love of just like those types of relationships that you have in your life that help you to feel even more connected to who you are. And it's just an opportunity for you to see everything that you've always had. And maybe also just like writing that out Who knows maybe the energy that we were just like discussing, put it out there into the universe who knows James could pop up this year next year. You never know. People love to the universe loves to work in mysterious ways. Sometimes he really does. So I'm rooting for just even just like a small reconnection because it could be really, really cute.

I hope so. Gary, where can people find you on the internet if they wish to connect with you?

If you're looking for me, you can find me on Instagram at gangster girl gangsta with a because I'm not no gangster. Okay, gangster Gregory, where you can find me sometimes I'm on Twitter, or you can email me gangsta Gurry, Gu ry@gmail.com.

Thank you both so very much, Sam. I hope this gave you some guidance and optimism for maybe reconnecting in the future. Absolutely.

Thank you both so much,

Gary. Thank you that was just exquisite, and your compassion and your energy are just so caring. It was an honour to talk to you and to be a witness to this reading. Thank you so much for that.

Thank you so much. They're so nice to meet you, Sam. And thank you so much for letting me read for you on today.

Sarah, what is your love to go for it today?

My Love should go for this episode is a little silly. But I fully believe this with my whole heart. This is from Mrs. Frizzle on Magic School Bus. Take chances make mistakes get messy. Life is very messy and you take chances and you make mistakes. But that's how you grow and maybe you could try magic school bus.

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