One of the things that I love the most about being in our field is that we can take these golden nuggets that we get along the way and use them at home, try them out, see how they go, right, adjust accordingly, and be basically therapeutic agents in the lives of our children and the lives of our loved ones, right, as much as we can be in that role. I, my son has been in counseling, I won't go into the reasons why right, but I definitely believe in it. And I, part of my agenda is to de stigmatize getting help. That's just a really big part of my jam, I really think that this whole notion that we're not supposed to need help is deeply problematic. It's obviously not working. And so I really wanted my son, not just to, you know, know that what Mommy does, but to see us together doing that work, really having some help around emotional process and not thinking that somehow that's a failure, or somehow we're in trouble because we need to do this. But in fact, this is, what this is a healthy coping mechanism is that when you go through hard times, you reach out for help. And we have a lot of help within our family system and our family, our support system socially. But there are some things that it's not other people's job to do. And I want my son to embrace knowing that asking for help from the right people, and right timing helps me stay on my developmental trajectory. Right. I of course, you know, just like any other mom, just like pride and joy, he's my very favorite person on the planet, it's my favorite thing to do. As the Mom, I'm so glad I didn't miss that train. And every minute I spend with him is like my favorite minute of the day, right? Even when it's hard, it's just like, it's so rich and special. And to have time with a counselor with him by himself with us in parent child, Diane, has really enriched our relationship as well. One thing I can say is that what part of our process was to start carrying out around the inside out characters in my purse, and he has me narrate his inner world through the inside out characters or through roadog, or whatever, he's always telling me to, like play play XYZ. So by trying to guess and reach into his experience with these tools, he's he gets mirrored, right, and he sees that I understand what his internal experiences and that he can correct me anywhere that I'm wrong. And what matters to me is to understand what's going on for him and how he's navigating his life. And I do feel like I've been very blessed to come up through this profession, and be given tools that I probably needed my parents to have when I was a kid, and they didn't quite have them. And you know, they were definitely good enough. But there was like a little bit more that I probably needed emotionally than what was necessarily part of their generation, to be able to offer and so to have learned that and to be able to give that to my son is something I'm so grateful for. And I think it's a great blessing for us in our in our field to be given those tools. And I do think because of that, and he's way more articulate has way better interoceptive skills than I ever had at that age. And I hope that you know, as he matures, that will turn into something that allows him more ease at navigating stress than I generally have had in my life and more of a sense of just like righteous the right to to have his emotional needs met in relationship as opposed to trying to be a good a good kid quote unquote, right but just to show up as you are grumpy, whatever, and know that you're going to be received doesn't mean you get to be disrespectful across people's boundaries, but that you are loved and accepted exactly as you are, you don't need to put on a face in order to be received. So that's one of the things I want to give my clients as well is just that come as you are. And we'll all be in this together, and we'll figure it out as best we can. And I think that that's something that as a species we're trying to get from each other. And I think if we could stop just taking from each other, and instead really allow that liberatory process to unfold, you would see a lot of generosity come out of the species, it's certainly there. So that's one of my little wishes. I hope that that comes through in the book. I hope that for our children, we're arranging the conditions for them to be received that way and for mental health professionals to feel supported in getting the help that you need in order to help the clients that are leaning on you so hard. So that's part of my little prayer in the book.