5-Day Challenge - Day 2
6:49PM Jan 12, 2021
Ladies and gents, ladies and gentlemen welcome today number two you're looking happy you will have it you know what my daughter does my daughter's assignment but I'm not gonna lie down and teach her something I didn't teach her literally by the code. I did not teach her sign language my nanny taught her sign language she learned Spanish English sign language better in English but you really get a sign language really good as this is all done. I've done done done. no muss no fuss, or then again. So here we go. Put your hands up. We're all done with day one. Give me all duttons Give me the all does Adrian There we go. Adrian when I'm doing the Tony Robbins dance or the Brendon Bouchard dance. We're doing that we're doing all done Give me the handshake right there. Adrian? Right there. Yeah, yeah, this is this is this is this is there you go. All right. Perfect. So go ahead, kill your cameras just started day to kill your cameras. I'm going to get us rockin and rollin here for day. Number two. Now I could I could come up with like a really fancy story about why we're starting two minutes late. I'm gonna share with you You want to know why take a guess somebody's chatting to chat about why I'm late. I don't know I'm not late to my training just said for one reason. There's only one reason I will authorize in my life. To be late to my own trainings. I've been late to date night for this reason. I have been late to trainings. I've been too late to a trainings with 3000 people before because of this one reason. Take a guess. Take a guess. From my daughter. Nope. Not my daughter. That one. I love my daughters. But nope. bathroom break. Nope, nope. sex. Nope, that's a temptation. Right? That's a good one. I like where your mind was going on that one. Not that one. You and Danielle were doing something sex? Nope. Again. Nope, not that no sexy time hanging 10 Well, I don't hang 10 because that's what we do on a short board. But you're right surfing. Now. Let me tell you why today was clean. If you don't serve you don't know what that means. Let me tell you what that means. That means that today there was no wind there was a slight little offshore breeze. There was a four to five to six foot poles. We had consistent waves and I got into nope I was in a creek I serve at the strand right around my house. So I hate going to Creek there's like 400 people Creek in like half Cooper Dix we serve like a little pocket a bunch of middle school kids from a surf team in high school team. So here here's the deal though. Like it was a little offshore but it was glassy little offshore and consistent. Which means we were getting a new set about every 35 seconds 40 seconds which is unheard of and there were only about 12 of us there were plenty waves plenty of waves and I got stuck in a challenge here's what the challenge is a surfer right when waves are like this and you got shit to get done. am thinking why the hell did I schedule this train at 830 out of surf clear till 10 o'clock to my next stream? I was like okay because I care about these guys care about myself we committed to doing this here we go right so that's one piece but the second piece is you get into one more zone Am I surfers on here? How many surf type in yes abuser if you serve and I'm not talking about like you got a foam top one time and you were on vacation in Costa Rica and somebody pushed you into a wait. Yes Dan serves Nathan serves. Barry 50 years ago Barry served 50 years ago yes oh man's now dude. Oh man. Dude, I went Oh, I got my coach used to take me to old man's when the swell was big when I was first learning to surf because I was too terrified sir I wasn't here I just did almost drowned too many times and he was like alright, listen, we got it. We got it. We got slower roll here a little bit. No abuse too cuz I'm old. That's why they call it old man 10 I want to serve like in Point Break, but let me tell you right now that wave and Point Break is insane. So yeah, that's gonna happen ever in my life. Just you know, waves are all way way way bigger than your mind thinks they look on Instagram. So everybody gets excited about watching nazara and porch and golden Mavericks. You have no idea what you're looking at nothing. Do you know what people don't think about people don't think about windsurfing. They don't think about what happens when you fall. I never thought about that. I don't think about how are you going to get out? Like they don't think about that. I don't think about how you're going to get out to where the waves actually catchable that like there's a whole bunch of fucking work to get out. Guess what, once you're out, there's a whole bunch of work about learning to get in position. There were some things going on. There were dolphins meeting this morning. Out of the lineup. These are big dolphins. They're visitors they've been here for a couple of weeks. They're big ones. I don't remember the name but the big dolphins the big big ones like like eight foot dolphins these things are fucking huge, right? They're a little bit darker, like darker skin. And they're mating like there's all mating rituals or sex happening out in the lineup with the dolphins. Dolphins are having sex and Serbs aren't having sex. We're just making love to the waves. And all this there's so much that goes in to actually being able to pull that off. What happens when you fall.
You got hold Rep. Do you know most people first time they've fallen away They feel like they're drowning. And they've been under the water less than one second and you're like, well, I can hold my breath in a hot tub. You know, I can hold my breath standing in the shower for one minute. You're like live for you. How about you hold your breath when your heart rates 160 beats per minute, you've been paddle for 45 minutes already. The sets are heavy and you get held down not once you get down twice, and you're down for only 12 seconds. 12 seconds is that 12 seconds you're accurate. I'll hold my home arrest hold
by stop talking and then we saw Matt's face. So let's go ahead and mute Madoff. So not yet, right? It's not very long. 12 seconds. It's not very long, right? But when you're under the water, and your heart rate is high, and you're in the middle of a surf session, and your mind goes to panic is Game Over fuck going like with Twiggy and all these guys that I know. And all these big wave surfers these are fucking nuts. These guys surfing Mavericks right now getting to three wave hold downs, you understand blood vessels popping their eyeballs. Joe, here's why I'm sharing all this with you. Surfing is a skill that requires a physical discipline of 1000s of reps to figure some shit out and is a mindset. So today waves are hollow, right? What that means is there's 2012 to 15 surfers out there, but there's really only about six or seven people surfing. What that means is everybody else spends a whole session paddling like they're gonna catch the wave. But right when they need to dig down and power the hardest and kick the hardest. To get in the wave. They will back off the paddle back off the kick and they'll ride right up on the lip look down over the cliff and then peel back off the way and they'll do this all session they won't catch one way. I know because I used to do this too. There's all of this intensity that's required, like bouncing on a board. I could not sit on a nine foot foam top that you would get from the Walmart. Right or Costco couldn't do it didn't even know how to didn't have any balance didn't have any paddle strength. Why need you to meet Matt out. Mac did you show up? Matt, I need you to ask me yourself, Matt. Is this mute yourself or Sandy? Can you please mute him? So there is all there is again. That's it? I'm blocking him. Matt, I love you, buddy. But I can't keep having your screen show up. Sammy handle that. So here's here's a piece of circular why this makes any sense to what we're talking about when it comes to creating radical results. Is it oftentimes we want the outcome, but we don't we don't know what's actually required to get it. So I can come in and say we want to serve. That was my dream, right? Like I moved into the house I was in we were right on the breach in the strand here in Orange County. Allen moved in we're right on the beach. And guess what I'm looking down and I can't serve and I was like I want to serve. This was the desire right now. You all gotten connected to something that you want. Right? We that was one of the questions from last. Okay, well, what do you want? Now we got clear about where we are. We're going to talk about that you're going to get share that here in a second with a buddy group of buddies in a pod. You got clear about where you are you got clear about how you got there, you're like, Well, here's some of the things I've been doing patterns routines. And then inside of that space, and the IMS Mike came this other thing, which is his opportunity. Okay, well, here's what's opening up for me. And here's what I want next. So when I said I want to serve, I wasn't actually realistic at the time I started serving in June of 2017. The fact that I'm surfing the waves I serve right now I serve guys now serve like 20 years, 30 years, guys have served from the time they were like kids skated served like forever, I'll paddle out with them. I will drop everything and drop. I may not look as pretty unweighted because they can do some crazy cool shit. I'm not pulling any aerials. My turns are not as sharp as theirs. My cup backs don't look as cool. I'm not empty in half the ocean when I turn right but i can get in on but notice is June of 2017 1819 2021. So I started in June, here's one year here's two years. Here's three years. And right now we're like 3.6 years, right? So I started in June. So we have July, August, September, October, November, December, coming into January. So we're knocking on our seventh months, so three years and seven months. I've had over 201 on one sessions with my coach that lasted an hour to two hours 200 sessions at 75 to $100 a pop. I've gone on 11 surf trips, three times to Waco, Texas, to just practice in a way pool. I've had over 1200 surf sessions in water in three years and seven months I've spent over Over 1600 hours in the water. And guess what, after three years of doing this Finally, in the last four months, everything is starting to click. So one of the things I want you to see inside of this is the fact that there are things that you say you want, but in the moment of saying you want them you don't know what's actually required to pull that off.
I have taken people out to surf on days with me, they're like, dude, I can do this on my gun. I don't know. I don't know if you can. But I'm not I'm not trying to be negative right now. But the ways where you want to go You sure you on paddle out with me right now, this could ruin you forever. And they're like, that sounds like you do not have the reps to pull this off right now. You're trying to hit Domino for and push it over. And it's going to be overwhelming to you. We have days that we've named after our friends who came out with me and a couple of my buddies I serve with where I'm like, I don't know if you should come out and they're like, no, I got this and they're pretty aggressive athletes. I'm like, just because you're an aggressive athlete doesn't mean shit out here, bro. Like, so you can be fucking buff as fuck. And doesn't matter. Like there's fit surfers or not fit surfers, but there's a psychology to it. And we name these days which are the days they never come back. We have a day called the usual day. We have a day called Parker day. That's my son. We have like the nickname we have these lineup of these days that we've named where the swell was a certain level, people came out and got fucking train wreck and they never came back. like they've not served again. But like traumatizing and done. There's moments on the pursuit of what you say you ultimately want where you're going to face great Carnage and big decisions in 2017 or 2000. See started in the summer. In the summer fall of 2017. I was surfing in Huntington Beach. I had never served in Huntington Beach more than one or two times I was not good enough. I had barely gone down from a nine foot board to an eight foot board to a seven foot board I was on a six foot 844 leader. I short board, right? It's a lot of float. It's hard when it gets heavy cuz you got it you have to be able to duck dive with this board. It's very difficult, right? But I didn't know this. I was tired. I was not used to this. I was not used to the pole. The way it works at the pier. I wasn't used to how hard it pulls. I was exhausted. I was tired. I wasn't smart. I was trying to prove something to myself by being out in the water still, I got caught inside. I waved Rob bifa wave rotten top bed which right now five away there's nothing to me. But back then five foot wave was like the fucking Empire State Building landed on my head broke my leash. And I was stuck in this current. And the waves kept crashing and they kept crashing and I had a blackout moment where I screamed for help that some guys up on the pier that I remember the last thing I remember seeing is they drop their coffees and we're sprinting down the pier to get the lifeguards. The next thing I know I'm coming to conscience or conscious over by the pier holding on I'm 150 200 meters away from the pier. When this last thought hits everything blacks out. I don't remember how I got there. I don't know how I got there. I do know there were some divine intervention. Absolutely for sure. Because by the time I get to the beach, and I'm over by the pier, and I'm holding on I come to and there's a pylon a pillar and I wrap my arms and legs around this pillar and it's covered with all these like little clams and they're cutting the shit out of a wetsuit of my hands I'm gonna fuck everything in my survival mechanism was like just wrap this pole so I did I wrapped and the waves are hitting me and I'm just holding this pole and then lifeguard teams come running out the sky everything you think you see in a movie you legit see here in Orange County these kids are like fucking monsters are you like used to like Polo swept by or they're just water polo player fuckin amazing. They come on out to me and they look at me like, are you okay? They say yes. So where's the other guy that was with you? I was like, there was no other guy with me. I was like, I was by myself. I was like, No, there was another guy with you. Who was out in the water with you. Someone else's he's still out there. I was like, dude, I was by myself. I was I was drifted down. I was not with the pack lineup. I was by myself. I did not serve out all the guys I was with were already in the water. They're like somebody out there so they don't listen to me. They put one lifeguard and they bring me into the beach and then all the guys put their fins on and they start swimming out and a bunch of surfers start paddling out to go try to find this other guy.
There was no other guy. And that was the first time like probably in a very long time where I had what I consider to be a divine intervention in my life. Over the next four or five months, I was terrified, terrified of the water terrified. I would lie in bed and listen to waves crash at night and I would have sweaty palms. I couldn't sleep I would have anxiety I'd look at the surfline report and be terrified if it was anything over two foot I was terrified. I would go down the beach I'd be shaking so hard for four straight months I'd be shaking so hard I couldn't get in water unless my coaches they're so close mostly right there with me and pull me out into the water be like Dude, you got this. Let's go If I saw anything, if swell started coming instead of paddling to go catch it, I'd start puking pad on the other direction trying to get to the beach. Like my survival fear factor was so intense and some of you have created so much trauma for yourself from the past about how you've dealt with certain situations in your business. You've got traumatic situation inside of what's happening inside of what what the way you got lost businesses, the kind of money you had relationships that you've been in. And that trauma is why you don't drop into the waves anymore. You pretend like you're going to drop in, you pull in, but then you back out, you intentionally make it look like you're paddling. But you know, in your own head, you're not trying to catch this way. Because there's no try particularly when it gets bigger. There's no try and I don't know the first thing about big dude, I hang out people serve like double triple overhead these guys fucking they tickle on their ass cheat what I do. But there's a piece inside of all of you, where you have to learn how to fucking charge like you can't hold back. But we hold back because of the trauma. Because a lot of times, unlike my friend, what I did, my friends who got traumatized in the water didn't get back in the water. My daughter last story, and then we're going to get started for today. My daughter isn't doing survival swimming. She started yesterday. Right? She is a very big experience for us. We've done this with our other children. And it's a little rough. I was in the water with it yesterday, but she did really damn good. I was very impressed with her. I think it's good to put so much time into the water with her last like gear. So she's 17 months old and her survivals when we start the lesson, there are instructions from the survival swim instructors simply this once you start you cannot stop the end, once you start, you cannot stop there is no stopping. All there is is go. And the reason is because if you stop with your child, one or two weeks into this process, most children will be traumatized and terrified of water forever. Because ultimately, these kids kind of drowned and learn how to shut their mouths and stop breathing water. How do you teach them to stop breathing water, you put them under the water that like there's no there's no other way to be able to pull that off there you the only way to pull that off is to actually put them in the water and allow them to experience choking, gagging, vomiting and puking. But if you stop in the middle of that piece, you've got PTSD. Now when we my oldest daughter 13 is a fish in the water. And the mother my brother in law's son is the same age as my daughter. We started survival swim at both these kids. My wife couldn't watch because it was too intense. It was too traumatic. I would sit there and I was just like on pins and needles watching the thing go down. My brother in law and his wife were there watching to my his wife panicked, she couldn't come anymore. Then he panicked and pulled their son out seven lessons in. We did not I just kept pushing, I said Go and tell you can throw my child in the swimming pool and she knows how to float to her back in her pajamas. Like the video, we're gonna keep doing this. And we did that with all our kids. And as we're wrapping the baby right now until she can be thrown in the water with all her clothes on her hat, her mittens or winter jacket, her boots and she can figure out how to float to her back and then get to the edge of the pool. We're not going to stop this, we're going to keep going until she gets it. Because I'm interested in her getting this as a skill for her no matter how fucking painful it is for me to watch. I'm in it for the outcome. I'm in it for what I desire on the other side, which is the freedom of knowing my child has minimized the ability to minimize the reality of drowning in my backyard or a friend's backyard pool. We live in orange counters, pulls everywhere. So this process that you're pursuing, is like survival swimming. But many of you have pulled yourself out of the class is lesson six, you stop playing. You had your drowning moment in ocean but you didn't get back into the water and what was pain? What was painful for you that pain was never translated into power.
There was no translation. So you stepped in and you stopped it. So you can keep telling yourself all day long. I want this, I want this. But you're going to keep having the same experience. There's some moment where you're going to have to break the barrier and just quote as we say out and we'll say out in the lineup to each other. Sometimes eyes get bored big massive fucking close outs are coming in. I was like I don't give a fuck. I'm tired of sitting here. I'm not here to just Bob and survive with these walls. I'm going to drop so we have a statement where we can call it out on any one of our friends and we can chat and say the No matter what, bro and you have to go no matter what you have to go No matter how heavy it is, and you have to fucking go. So we'll turn in i got i get caught out no matter what all the time, and I'll turn around I just thought I'm paddling. I know I'm in a monster I'm about to get completely demolished. And yet there's a piece of power that comes from the process of dealing with pain. But what changes isn't the pain? What changes is your story?
What's the difference between my wife being a critical bitch versus being constructive queen? What's the difference? Is my wife a critical bit or she a constructive queen? Because if you take the language, it sounds exactly the same. Yet in my marriage, for most of my marriage, I sat in a place with a storyline which is my wife's a critical bitch. So no matter what happened in our marriage, I would get myself stuck, pretending like I was all in I would pretend paddle for the drop in knowing good. Well, that wave was terrifying to me. I'm not fucking dropping it. I'm gonna pretend I'm going to paddle out too far out on purpose. So that I'm just oh, you know, I was too full. I was too deep. I was too far I was too far out. Oh, I'm waiting for the set wave all the bullshit stories I would tell myself in the beginning of surfing, to just give myself permission to be a pussy. And it's okay. Like, I get it. I was scared. Many of you to get what you want. You're gonna have to let go of the scared. And the scared is linked up to the stories that you're telling yourself. There is nothing different. There are people all around you who've gotten results that you want, and they've done it and gone on to get even bigger results and you've watched it happen. And then the crazy part is is a peace in your mind that knows you're better Dude, I am not. I am not the best athlete. I built just yesterday. I'm not the best athlete. But I am fucking crazy. It's my X Factor. like fuck it. Let's go do it. Do it. People like Hey, what do you think about that wake up crater challenge. Like Yeah, I stopped thinking about I just had an idea. And then we launched like two days later and we're already done with the first session with the second session. My teams are the guys was talking to us. I work fuck dude, we were just talking about like, last week. I was like, I know why would I wait? Go go no matter what. Test it. Let's see what happens. Let's see if it works for everybody. And if everybody likes it, go no matter what go no matter what. Go no matter what. We talked about this yesterday. ship it, ship it, ship it go no matter what. Hey, well, you're gonna it's impossible way to catch it doesn't matter. I get the rep have that feeling of dropping in and from a higher height, which I have to get good at anyways. So even if I get to the bottom of the drop, and I get to go just straight people that was a waste not a fucking waste. I was like the more reps I get with looking vertical down a wave. It helps my psychology I get used to dropping from that height. Even if I get to go just straight. Well, yeah, but that was a close out wall and you try to tuck in right? So you didn't really get barreled wasn't an out there was no way to get out. You just got like shy like Yeah, but I got the mental image of being in the fucking tube. How am I gonna do the goddamn Instagram videos and get my own video coming in and out on a big ass fucking wave if I don't even know how to get into it. So I'm gonna take that as a win. Yeah, it wasn't a win. Fuck you. I was in a way that was a win for me. I'm gonna go no matter what. I'm going to go no matter what I'm going to ship it no matter what I'm going to go no matter what. So no matter what the stories are that you have going on for yourself. There is a story that must exist, which is at some level, you've got to transcend the pain of your past. And the story associated with it that holds you back from going no matter what. I had a lot of pain in my marriage. A lot of pain and a lot of pain in my marriage around sex and intimacy with my wife. And in one moment, sitting on a couch in therapy of my wife. One moment everything changed. Right? I'm sitting there and my wife says I want to be fucked. I want to I want you
I just don't know how.
And I this this story. The date I was hearing from my wife was so radically opposed to anything I had ever been telling myself for 1215 years. But I didn't even know what to do with it. By Name Oh to do with it. It shattered my story and it transformed the pain and the pain. became power. So we're going to go into a share and you guys going to share what you got to as far as your WordPress right now as magazine guys were put up there we know we got it up there late we got one up coming up for you a little bit I made this little action guys for you. I didn't, I didn't even put my teams off on it. I've put all this shit together for you guys. right why my teams are another project to do another thing. So I'm like, hey, fuck it, we're gonna get them given transcripts, I know how to do that. I'm gonna create them a little workbook that'll work under that myself. And pull audio there. Hey, fuck it, let's put a video up. We'll just give it all to them was put on the same page as if they want to use it now that we use it later. Either way, let's just get it to them see what we can do. Right? Could I have my designers go do it? I could. But why that fucking takes too long. Like that they're already then I got to put it in the queue of my design team and I got to take no bucket. I'm gonna go do myself. Yeah, but what about this and I never forget, I'm just gonna go do it. Why? Because God no matter what, we're in the middle of this, I don't have time to make this perfect. What I'm trying to do is just fucking go go no matter what I have time to go no matter what. That's what I got time for. If I don't got time for going no matter what, then it doesn't matter. How many you guys get what I'm saying? typing clear. Typing clarity or getting this. By the way, it's not a story about surfing. It just happens to be the thing that I'm passionate about. So a lot of my stories about serving for people who serve you completely get it for people who don't serve you completely get it to because it's a parable. So just use it roll with it doesn't matter. Surfing is life in life and surfing for me. I never understood until I served and then Now I understand why they say it's a surfer thing, you wouldn't get it. Right. But guess what, being a creator, it's a creator thing. And people who don't create don't get it either. The fact that you're even here, are you committed to do this for yourself and be here in this conversation is massive. So we had some questions that we went through yesterday with some questions about where are you at. And we looked at the facts about that we looked at the feelings about that. We looked at the focus about that. We looked at the fruit about that. And you ended up with some top four working outward. Okay, you selected the domain. you selected this up, we went through the work on this. And then we got down to the bottom with the possibility what opened up next. Now today's about connection yesterday was about clarity today was about connection. How many of you got more clear between yesterday to today type in a word clear? If that was you if you got clear typing a word clear type look at all clears rolling in. So we got a whole bunch of new clear, more clear than yesterday. Okay, and we're going to share that. So you're going to get a shared top for working and not working to get to share what's opening up for you now. Right? Because remember, inside of that clarity, we cannot get to the connection if we are like, so we drop allies, and we put ourselves in a place to win. And what is this place we're putting ourselves to win. It's this place of clarity by getting to the facts of what's really going on. Here are the facts about what's really going here the facts about my routines. Here's how I got here. And now that I've gotten here, here's where I'm at, I can own it good, bad or ugly, I can own it. I can own it. I was running down the hill from my house to go go serve one morning and some of the oh geez that I now serve with them. We laugh about it now. But in my first year and a half, they would just make fun of me. Literally up from these rails up in a parking lot. They would yell at me and make fun of me. They would make fun of my board. They would make fun out they'd make fun of me. There's like we were in middle school. And I get it and I get fucking pissed and I'd yell ship back at him and be like, fuck these guys. And I would just keep paddling. Keep paddling. Keep paddling. Keep paddling. Just like Dory Just keep swimming. Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. And then we had a few days when they were out. And things got heavier. And I kept dropping. And they were like, Oh shit. Well done.
Now I got respect, be it. So same time people fucking talk shit. I'm like, Well, I used to be that guy. So some of the things that you are coming to terms with some of you pretty shitty right now. You're not that good. And people are making fun of you. And you have a big vision for yourself about where you want to be. But people are making fun of you. And that's fucking hard. And that's why we don't want to look at what is right now. Because we might even be the one making fun of ourselves. How many founders jump in that place where you look at your facts, and you're like, That's fucking disgusting in any type in me if you've had that experience now or before we look at it, you're like, unfuck, unbelievable. Like, I'm disgusted with myself. Like I'm looking in the mirror. I'm disgusted with me. I'm disgusted that I keep doing this. I'm discussing the fact that I still found myself in the same situation. I'm disgusted by it. Okay, good. Guess what, this is not new for me either. This how I end up growing is I get disgusted with what I tolerate in myself. I just get disgusted with it. I get disgusted with what I'm tolerating down to simple things and it just refines and return I had the stupid habit of I stopped paddling. There's a moment where I feel like the waves would have to catch me where I need to paddle harder. But I've gotten a bad habit in the last month or two of stop paddling for whatever fucking reason I'm looking for a little boost from the weight. So last night, three days, that's all I focused on. And now I'm pissed off undiscussed it was myself. It sounds weird, but I'm like, Dude, it's bullshit you know to do with fuck you doing? Why are you stopping right now? So all I'm thinking about the way is coming out with it one thing, keep paddling paddle paddle paddle. That's it, I'm like, I will keep paddling until I'm going down the wave, I'm not going to wait the top and then drop, I'm going to paddle down the wave. And it works. So there's a piece inside of all of you where you're going to have to get disgusted with it doesn't mean that you're judging yourself and saying, you piece of shit, you suck. There's no guilt, there's no shame needed, but there's a disgust and all disgust is is the fact that you're saying I can't tolerate this anymore. I can't tolerate anymore. Alright, so let's pop those cameras on. We're going to go into groups, pop those cameras on, we're going to share our top four working, not working. We're also going to share a conversation with our friends inside the unit we're going to be put into we're going to share what opened up for us what's the thing that we think we want now so I'm going to share that domain what are the top four working, not working? And then we're also going to talk about what opened up for us. Alright, beautiful. Here we go. Let's go pop up your groups. Let me see your beautiful faces. There you are back in gallery view. Conan's looking happy Tim's look and have because Jennifer is on fire Armando is ready to break out some box jumps right now you got some boxes back there we might make Armando do like a like a standing vertical jump right up on there Chris and Julia are sitting in in outer space right now. Glen still got a solid beard game didn't know if yesterday he might come back and shave it off. That would have been crazy. Golf he's got no beard gain on but he looks like he's got bodybuilder mode going on. Shoulders popping through that fucking sweater. Well done my friend. I know my wife is in the fitness game. So now like I noticed all this weird shit just like hair. Oh my god, that guy. Definitely lift shoulders. Good job. All right. Listen, I didn't know anything about it until I looked at my shoulder. It was like man, I don't lift shoulders at all. And it can tell and I got a pancake gas from surfing. This is not working out. I was like, yeah, no booty. I was like, Well, did you see my wife? She's like, Yeah, but she's still having a booty. I'm like, yeah, doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Alright, here we go. We're gonna go into groups. You got groups and four to five, four to five minutes at a time. And each person has about five minutes or so. Four minutes three minutes in there you guys play it based on the group and I'll be one of our groups. Let's see. A host cannot turn on camera so we've got a couple of view as to as to allow my video Jovi Barry, you guys type in if you cannot get your camera turned on. Then we will get you in Conan. More squats. Yeah, no, I I keep doing the squat. You know, it's crazy. When I squat my I tried it. I would have to do the booty board to get it working. It's kind of like a ridiculous thing did it's a ridiculous thing. And I'm more concerned about my surf game. Alright, here we go. We're gonna go into groups. groups of four to five girls. Spread it out. Spread it out. Go Sam is gonna get us locked in. I will see you guys here in 20 minutes.
Ah, Kyle, this is like this is destiny. The the universe of zoom and you're not driving today. So you know. That's good. That's good. I don't think I was a Brandon yesterday. I wasn't with Tim yesterday. And Brandon, you and I weren't together where you think we're you meter on your side jam. Go. No, I
knew this morning that I was going to end up in your group again.
Did you know what? That's exactly what's gonna happen today?
All right. Well, what happened is the gods of zoom. The universe conspired with your desire. So here we are. So when I tell us how are you calling given time, give us an update from yesterday. So walk me down the domain, again, what you selected and others a little bit of toggle on that yesterday. And let's talk about the domain and what you found out on what's working now working facts and kind of share anything in there. I'll ask you a bunch of questions too. Okay, so
I started just kind of in the order. So I ended up I did body and you're right, it probably was business. But I still it's I'm still torn. So anyway, we're in now is, you know, I have one our way. And my percentage of that, like, do you want me to tell you all that stuff that you just want me to jump straight to the end?
Sure. roll roll with what you got roll with what you came up to Data Wise and both of us. So both you guys give this Brandon and Tim, we both get this like, all we're doing in this process is we're mind dumping data and giving our brains a chance to just be separated emotionally for a moment at what are the facts of what's going on. The overwhelm happens when the feelings and emotions come into play. And then they cloud the facts. Oftentimes things are as bad as we think they are. And oftentimes they're not as bad as we think they are. But either way we've got to separate ourselves out and that's what the process you guys have been going through. Okay, go ahead Coggan take it from the top right. Okay, so,
right now I weigh 190 pounds and it says that my BMI is at 31.4. I work out three to five days a week with weights I my muscles are starting to get warmer, but not much stronger. So that to me is a concern because I don't really care like me. I care I look at I want to be stronger. You'd have hormonal issues that I'm working through. I do drink too much alcohol
I have fatigue and brain fog. Actively choose Whole Foods and a body's pretty regular. That's kind of like, I guess the facts of where I am. Okay. That's my doing that right?
You're doing that perfect. That's great. Okay. Okay, now walk me down the feelings,
how I feel I feel gross when I see myself naked or in a bathing suit. I feel like the rewards are not matching the work that I'm putting in. I feel like others my size don't look as bad as I do. I feel like for size wise, like just really blubbery. And whereas I know other people that way more than I do, and they don't look as like, like a blob. Remember that like Ted Cruz thing they did when they said, You look like a fish in the blob or whatever. Yeah, that's how I feel. My hearing is good. My eyesight probably needs an update from the LASIK I had 10 years ago, my sleep is getting a little bit better as far as length but my restfulness mid from my REM or not sorry, that's, I guess back and went back and forth or do something else. Um, let's see. I don't feel my mobility, I feel like is not where it should be. And I'm 40 By the way, I started with that. Um, okay, so that's kind of the feeling like, I just feel like blah and gross and ask that to, you know, just, it's not how I'm not so concerned with how others see me. It's more like what I see. Like, that's what bothers me more.
So what do you what do you see? So we have the feelings of gross. And we have the feelings of like, my rewards don't seem to be lining up with with some of my behavior. Like, what when you look at you, like just walking by me or like, what do you see?
Something I don't really necessarily want to look at, like, I don't mind looking at my face, even then I see like, where it's not as pretty as I think it should be. And I've never struggled with that. Like, I know, I'm still pretty. I know that people still look at me, I know that. I could go out and find a new husband if I wanted, which I don't. But I know that but it's just the way that I want to look is I want to look and be like, Man, you look really good. And I don't I don't feel like that. Got it. I used to feel you still like my mirrors everywhere. And now I'm like, ah, I'll just look in this one because it's the skinny mirror. So that's that. Do you
do Christmas party? Do you do Christmas cards?
No, I never have I've been really okay. I'm very good at putting stuff together. But I get it getting the stamp on it. Somehow I cannot manage to get it from my house to the mailbox.
downstairs. I don't know.
The reason why I asked you though, because I love mail. So you see, like, the reason why I ask is a lot of times you will, you'll watch. I've watched people in our programs, I've watched people, my wife and I's life to the minute they get to a place where they're feeling that way about their body, or they have facts if they don't like about their body books, you watch them all start disappearing from a Christmas card pictures. It's only kids, they started dogs, you know, they just start disappearing probably
say that it's happened on you know, like Instagram or even I just don't put a lot of stuff out there like that. But like, I used to take a ton of photos and put it in the Google Drive for our family. But you can see in my pictures now where it is like mostly just the kids or us playing like, I'm more concerned about, like an angle than used to it's like if I was playing with the kids just take a picture cuz we're having fun, I didn't care and now I'm a little bit more concerned about like, I'll just do it from here.
So what's been your focus on this? So if we broke this down to like a focus on of if you look at how your focus has been with your body, what when you look at the patterns, the habits, the routines, what are some of the things that you have been doing, and things that you think that have led to this place? And we've obviously got to rewind and look at you know, the last couple years and what's happened there. So what do you think? Here? Okay. Okay,
I am here because I let my feelings or I let Zach's my husband's feelings be my own. And I am a not like 100% an impasse like he can come home and act like things are normal and I will feel like shit and I'm like, well, things were so much better before you got home but I just assumed maybe my mood changed and what I've realized like even though he was pretending he was okay, I was still feeling all the shit that he was feeling towards me so even though he was acting fine I was getting the rest of it and so I was confused I couldn't figure out why do I feel like this like what's going on because I was in a great mood and now I'm not so I'm so and I felt unloved and I reacted in a way that match that so I enjoyed not having him around because then I wouldn't have to feel the burden that came home when he did when he was around it would make me want to drink because I gave up on trying to keep up with my health because I felt like he didn't believe me So prior to like so I drink too much now well not right now I don't was a stop. But before that started I was doing orangetheory like three to five times a week I was seeing all these different boxers and having blood panels done and all this and like the weight just kept coming on. And so finally, after a while, it's like, I don't think he believes me. So I just kind of gave up on like anything and didn't care. And I was like, Okay, well, it's easier to deal with him if I've had something to drink. And I don't feel as much like the crap that he's bringing. So finally, at one point, I was just, I was doing orangetheory, three to five days a week, always getting in the orange, I was hardly eating anything, not because I was trying not to, but I wasn't hungry. But everything I was eating was like, green and healthy plus cheese. But, um, so finally, I was just like, fuck it, like 20 pounds in like a month of orange area and all that. And I, you know, tried eating more, and that still didn't help. So finally, the routine just became like, I want to zone out and not feel it. And so probably around three in the afternoon, I don't have a bottle of wine. And I have, you know, by the time the evening was over two bottles or three and didn't even care and didn't even feel it, like was just kind of like, Okay, so that's how I got here. That's where I am.
So number one, huge courage to share all this. Number one, and number two, huge courage to share all this in a group of three men.
So you guys need to hear it. Because I know I've mentioned this yesterday. Zach's in your program. And one of the like, good painters that we've had would have come if he hadn't. So I don't I want to because I want you guys to know that if you're married, like, we feel it. So there's a biggest honesty I could give you is easier than your wife having tried to tell you,
yep, my well missing the pattern, the pattern and routine that you're that you've gotten that you found yourself in physically and emotionally, and then the patterns or routines that came with it with alcohol and food and frustration and disconnect with, with the spouse, with Zach as I as this all happened, this isn't that this is normal. Like this is normal. This is what people don't want to be public about this. People Republic about this, but this is normal. Like when you strip it all back, and I had a chance to the last 10 years to get to strip it all back with 1000s of people and individuals and couples. This is normal. But the greatest part that I love that you're sharing this fact that you're just being honest about it. And I can tell there's moments you were even saying some were part of your brain wants to shut it down. But don't say that. I will say that era era, I don't wanna say era. But as you're saying, and you're putting it out here. How's it feel?
It feels good. It feels really good. Yeah. And I mean, I also feel bad, though, because, you know that, like, I hate that people like to know both parts. But I think you're right to on the whole. Just the things that we earlier when you were talking about, we let the people down or, you know, we started believing that or listening to it. And I think one thing to know is that sometimes you don't even know what's happening. Like I it took me forever to figure out what was going on because I would be fine. And then I wasn't and the only thing that changed is that he had walked in the door. And he was doing everything he could to act normal and to be nice and to do nice things. And we would still have dinner and cook and talk and stuff. But it was so much underlying underneath there that like I could feel it. And that's that's really where it was. So instead, I should have been smarter. So it was my fault, because I should have known maybe not earlier, but I should have started asking or looking for the solution earlier and then trying to figure out how to have that conversation with him. I didn't trust him. I didn't trust that I could talk to him.
Know what a good agenda. The only thing that can be different from here is you Be honest. for yourself, right? Because that's the only thing gotten away. Just not being honest. Like Tim Brown, I want you guys to see this too. Like no matter what, like the greatest point to getting what you want is to start from a place of honesty. The hardest part is when you're dealing with other people and you want to get something for yourself that involves other people, but you can't tell the truth. So then you end up in in this entanglement which is super frustrating. It happens in business partners, marriage, couples, clients, it happens with friends, family, children, just come back to honestly, my daughter's gonna get kicked out of school this week. She's 13 like, she deserves to be kicked out. Present schools like Well, what do you what do you want to do? I was like, What do you mean what do I do? Like you know what she doing? Kick her up? I was like if I ran the school okay girl do so 100 out here I'm not asking for a refund. She deserves to be kicked out. And I sat there last night said the only thing I care about is so I'm not worried about grades. I'm not worried about school I'm worried about a couple things. What are they interested in number one that I don't lie and I was like Yep, any fucking line and it drives me nuts. So Brandon has come to you. And let's have a chat real quick share with me share with me what was going down with your facts and what domain you chose.
So real quick before as we get started, Kylie, I want you to know that your story is super impactful for a lot of reasons and my life right now is kind of like yours in reverse. Back in June of last year, I closed down a business 15 years because of a lot of the things you just described. I'm still very married. We've been married for over 20 years. But our situation is still at the point that you're you were talking about where I can be productive as hell all day long, I can get a ton of shit done, I can do whatever I need to do up to the point that she walks through the room into the room, and then all my motivation drops. And we live in Washington State. And it is still up until the first of the first of January was my big decision. I started wake up warrior last year went through I think I might have made it. It was it was the one episode before you said, this is where everybody quit. So don't quit. And I quit the one before I followed it after that. But I didn't keep pursuing because I hit that gratitude spot where I just couldn't give gratitude. I didn't have it in me. So I just wanted you to know that your story is a story that is very important for people to hear. So just know that on top of that, where I am now. So a year ago, like I said, I closed down the business 15 years, the reality of that story is my business should have been closed five years into it. That was the point where my wife decided she didn't want to work from home. She one day, walked in after doing my work and she said I got a new job down into this financial center and I'm going to work there. I'm working there part time, I'll help you part time. The reality is she walked out on me that day. And we've been struggling with that ever since I tried to do everything myself for years. I always thought I could do it alone, I fought to do it alone. The reality of it is is I ended up years behind in my taxes, massively in debt, and finally shut it down to go work for somebody else in June. I am not a work for somebody else sort of person. I've been in business for myself since I was 14 years old. And the situation I'm in now is absolutely unacceptable. I'm unmotivated, I'm distracted, I keep comparing myself to people around me. I'm overweight Now usually I hang out around 200 that's where I'm comfortable I should be down maybe 190 the beginning of this year I weighed in 275 and over the course of the first 11 days of this year have already dropped nine pounds. Just getting back I need to get back to where I was build my like Kylie said that competence level of when you feel good and when you look good, you just are it seems easier to do things. So and my four things that I kind of listed was unmotivated and distracted losing money monthly because I'm not making the income that I'm used to making overweight and at first I said lonely but the reality of I think that's actually I just changed it a minute ago to disconnected I've just disconnected things that worked for me initially is when I start my day off right when I get up and I do something like this yesterday I can flat out say yesterday was possibly the most productive day I've had in the last I don't know months I mean I kicked ass yesterday all day long. And I will say right up to the point that my wife got on board came home at four o'clock my motivation died just happened we're still trying to figure that out she just yet nonetheless. If I exercise in the morning, if I'm if I get up put something in my ears that's going to motivate me and get on the treadmill or work on the TRS or something like that My days are are better and then just you know I bite to look at everything around me and start doing those comparisons and I have a hard time keeping that mental outlook on being present now and looking forward versus turnaround and looking back and if I start looking back my day screwed and and that was really my other thing as far as working is is just looking forward not looking back.
Is your is your domain business or is your domain balance
my domain I did his business based on kind of what you were talking about in terms of you know, I have all these dominoes I mean right now all of them need to be worked on and I just felt like the money aspect and creating that abundance like you saw it said versus the scarcity that we've lived in for a long time because of the back taxes and the debt and different things like that. Those are that so I chose business based on that and working on the other things as far as pain goes I'm very connected there.
Okay, perfect. So business businesses the domain there's appears to be a lot of connection also to Valence. And then you're in the in the position for is the the the job that you're working in right now. does it pay the bills or is it not enough to pay the bills.
It pays the bills if we can make our numbers which I've been in sales. So during the pandemic, most of my stuff is face to face. So it's challenging to hit numbers, which not that we're docked for that it just doesn't give, I can basically pay the bills exactly with what my salary is. I need to make those numbers to start clawing my way forward.
Okay, got it. So I went through that path to 2009 2008, I worked from a buddy 2009 w two paycheck for the first time in, like 10 years time, since I was PE teacher. And 2010, I was purchased another guy named Brett Harvard, I worked for him. And then in 2011, I created a partnership with like three other individuals. So I've been down this path with the same path you're on, which is you build something and then you you go down, and it's it's a mindfuck. But when I look back, it's exactly what I needed. So you're there in the job you're in to find something specific, there's a skill set in the mindset that you don't have, that you're wanting to have. And that's why you've been led there just considered as a true like, you're there to find something and the minute you find it, you'll leave.
Yeah, and I actually have found something that I'm working forward towards. And I went in, in my my word to me, and what, what he tells me is, I meant to tell the story, I meant to put it in front of people, and I'm developed something for them to do follow. I went into affiliate marketing recently just learn that process, how that all works. start developing connections
plus, so I'm not talking about that I'm talking about you being in the job, you're in the job you're in, okay, there's there something you're to find there, a skill set, there's something you're going to find there all the rest, that could be true too. But like just there's something to find each step along the way I was led to work for somebody, and to be under the shadow of somebody and be a wingman. Because there was a skill set, I needed to obtain that ultimately, I would need down the road as a guy running my own show again. Like things I didn't have. So I was with people who did things. For example, you're working for a person who runs a business that was more successful than yours to the point that he can employ you during the pandemic, when people are losing their jobs. So that's impressive. So there's find out what you're supposed to find out from this guy. Because this guy is your new mentor, you don't even know it, you're on a hero's journey, and you got led to this job. Because there's something you're supposed to scoop up here and pick up and it's not just pay your bills. And if you can come back and you can come in from that frame and not like Oh man, I need to hurry and get out of here. He's like, No, I'm here for a reason. And I'm here for season. What is it? What am I supposed to learn? That was a problem. I didn't look at it that way. I was like looking at it while I'm be here. And then I go here. And now when I look back, I'm like, Man, I wish I would spend time just diving into what I was learning. What am I discovering here in this process? And Tim, guess what, in 28 seconds, you're gonna be live with me in front of everybody. So you get to have you get to have the kind of experience today that she had yesterday because we all talk too damn much in this group. So that's good. That's a good thing. But Tim, we're not missing out on and you're coming live with me again, Jimmy one on one here in a second. So as you look at that brand for yourself, I want you to really just take that on as our Brenden to that that that is the biggest thing that you can find this week is answered that question. All right, we're gonna bounce back in the next group.
Okay, welcome back. Welcome back. Welcome back. Everybody got their shares on our group, our group talk too much. We're talking to me and my three friends. Kyle was in my group again, from yesterday, zoom Gods commanded it. I don't know how that happened, but that we're there together. And then we have Brandon. And then I had Tim. So here's the deal. We're gonna have everybody shut up the cameras. I'm going to bring him in, because I'm going to walk through Tim with you guys. So you can kind of see how this process works. And then we're going to take the step into the next part for today, which is connection so ever to kill your camera except for Tim. Going killer camera, shut him down, shut him down, shut him down. And we're going to walk through and walk through five minutes kind of using his process and then I'm going to take him into another I'm going to show you what you're going to do today with a second piece. So let's continue and we're going to take Marcus, there's my surf buddy. What's up? What's up stretch? That's right, dude, don't show up your surfboards in your garage. Buddy. I'm sure all of your surfboards in your garage show that surf porn up in here. Looking good, bro. Gary. Alejandro Go ahead. Turn the camera off. Alright, perfect. So is this you and me Tim? All right, Tim. You ready?
You ready to dance ready to dance? We're going to Diablo vamos a bilateral con el Diablo. All right, here we go. So do give it to us. What's your domain? body? body? Okay, perfect. And give me the top. top four working right now for you and body. What are those?
I'm drinking too much.
That's the working
that's the working. Okay,
you're drinking too much is working for you or is not working? Oh,
it's okay. I'm sorry. It's it's not working for me. But I'm getting I'm improving on it.
Okay, got it. I was like, I was like you Tim. You're the first guy in 10 years to tell me the list of what's working what's work. He's I'm fucking drinking like a fish right now.
What's working for me is I'm I'm a I've got a low BMI I'm a thin guy it's just natural. All right. What else? But I exercise every day take my dogs for a walk. I go run sometimes so that's working for me.
Oh, dogs walk dog walk daily Do you walk your dogs your dog walk you
my dogs walk me to Siberian Husky.
Your dogs are walking you like crazy Tim.
Oh yeah, I get an upper body workout and a lower body work.
Okay, got it. So got low BMI exercise daily dog walk daily. What was the fourth we had another one?
Um, this is running sometimes running. Oh yeah, that's right. Never running club I run with on the weekends when when COVID is not going crazy.
Perfect. You need to move to Orange County or running clubs to keep they just keep running all the time. No matter what.
Yeah, I'm in San Diego.
But San Diego is all fucking weird. He likes protesting they can't decide if they're fucking LA or not. And we're like Dude, you're so count get over it. So all right, I You don't have to come to Orange County and just run up in Dana Point Laguna with us because we don't care. All right, so what do we got not working? What do you got?
I got a drink.
Okay, is that the only thing on the list?
Um, well, I've got I've also got Crohn's disease and I'm having issues with that. So I'll say that.
Okay. Pulling the crumbs.
I've had it since college I think but I wasn't diagnosed until about five years ago.
is the active like, what's that? Were you out in the property on stage? Okay, so it's active in some is affecting you every day? Yes. Okay. Got it. What is it? What is the situation here between the alcohol and crumbs? Is this like intermixed between you to deal with pain is probably not not helping.
I think I'm self medicating at times because I'm in pain frequently.
Yeah, that's why I was asking because like the all the guys had been worried that had crumbs all of them had drinking stuff going on to date and it was all it was it was either drinking or pills or marijuana like one of the three and it wasn't about sedation so much it was like trying to just deal with maintaining, like the constant pain that we're facing. Yeah. Does the chronic effects does the crumbs affect your exercise? Like Like, are the fatigue factors with this? Does this have a massive impact
it affects is likely to affect my ability to the ability to run his as well as I used to. And sometimes I will not go run with my running group because I'm sitting on the toilet.
Okay, got it. I get it, dude. Yes, like we listen, we have a couple of weird cup of coffee chiropractors, a couple doctors couple like sport trainers, the guys who ended up getting it over the past like eight years, nine years. And when I didn't understand it until they started sharing it with me and man, they guys went through warrior week and we had like different situations were created to kind of take care of them. Okay, so the drinking alcohol has kind of been linked up with the Chrome's and the Chrome's the middle linked up to the drinking alcohol. What what opened up for you is like something you want with body if that's your domain, was there? Was there a piece that like an idea that came through about hey, here's, here's the action I need to be taking or thing that I'm wanting?
Yeah, I'm trying to be healthier. I want to, you know, cut down on my drinking. I'm somewhat sick. I'm been somewhat successful on it, but I'm not completely successful. That's for sure.
What is the healthier look like for you? Is it just not drinking as much is this is this one piece? Like, there's this there's a piece of how much you drink? Compared to what you think you should be drinking? Is that healthier for you?
That would be but I'd also like my microphones to be more under control.
Okay, and do we know what Chrome's under control would look like?
I'm like, Well, I have to diarrhea, you know, several times a week and that's that's what's going on now. Okay. It'd be nice to not be about you know, when I go to bed I'm frequently in pain. And you know, I had I have like a sock that I put a tennis ball in that I stick under my stomach and I lay on my side to kind of put some counter pressure against where it's hurting
Okay, so we got pain in bed managed we got diarrhea and check things like that of like, I'm crude what what else would crumbs under under control or improved? What else would happen?
I think that would be it might be my insides are looking pretty good. Right now according to
I had a colonoscopy back in the spring. So
okay. How are you doing? How are you doing after having that every night what they found they find everything in there anything that was helpful?
Yeah, they think that they have they're keeping me on some of the medications I'm currently on because everything's it's it's helping to improve the way it looks. Okay, but I'm still having symptoms.
Is it better than it was
The symptoms are worse the my insides look better according
to the insides look better according to the doctor but the result of the insides looking better is you feel worse.
So would you Is this a short term strategy for them to help like fixing some inside out so we're going through a short term period where it's going to get worse before it gets better or is this a them saying it's better but you actually feeling worse and you're wondering what the fuck you're doing
the ladder? Okay, so they're grind me out on a couple new meds that I just got this week so
Okay, so but the two big issue of the crumbs right now would be the diarrhea Scituate diarrhea happening as well. And then also paint a bedtime, which I imagine is just fucking miserable for sleeping. Yes. Okay. Because that was the same thing we had when you talk about the tennis ball. I remember the the guys three or four these guys doing having to do really different things constant strategy at night constantly fatigued because they weren't able to sleep well. Okay.
I don't sleep well at all.
So this this is a massive this piece right here? Is the primary Domino in your world. If you could, if you could get this to even be more under control than what it is right now. If we could get the diarrhea to be more in check and the pain of bedtime? What would that look like? Do you have an idea of what what that? Would if those two things were improving? What would happen? Like what would that look like? On the other side? Oh,
goodness, I see. I think my mood would improve dramatically. Okay, I don't I don't think I would drink as much.
So these are the things that would these are the heavy guy. Yeah, we thought he would stop doing them. Like what I mean by this is like, Is there a frequency factor in this break? It's not going to probably ever go all the way away at least has been my understanding with Chrome's is that you're going to have it as soon as symptoms, it's just going to be about the magnitude of what those are. Maybe you could possibly go away over time. But if it was in a diary was in check, and that was a part of it that was handled for you what what would that look like in an ideal show? Ideally, you don't have it at all right? That's I get that piece. If we looked at this from a target of hey, here's a space it opened up for me in this what I'm wanting. And the thing I want to do about it, like what does that becomes that mean? Like you have an episode once a week you have it only three times a week you have it like once a month? What what would that end up looking like?
I'd be happy if it was once a week. Okay, I'd be static if it was once a month. Okay? The pain at that times every night so and so we gave you gave us a lesson. Unless I'm falling down drunk. It hurts.
Okay, I got it. So the paid the ideal game here would be to get rid of the hurting. Yeah. Gone. Okay, so the piece that we're getting clear on for everybody right now is we're getting clear about what we're wanting. And this is stage two inside of connection, which is us being able to connect to a bigger future, that then what the facts are. So when I get when I get clear about the facts, I open up the opportunity and ability for me to connect to another reality than the current reality. We talked about this yesterday with the possible me and the impossible. There's the possible 10 possible Tim currently experiences frequent diarrhea, current pain of bedtime, affecting his sleep, constantly fatigue, and by an effect, alcohol has become the tool of choice to try to manage the pain and the chaos it comes up with this. It fucks up the running schedule it fucks up this Bert social life at Fox Fox of life and gets in the way of his confidence and his certainty in his ability to do what he wants to do. Right. So we got to those facts and that clarity now opens up Impossible. Impossible. Tim is connecting to him. We're connecting to this impossible, Tim is saying okay, well, impossible. Tim goes to bed and it doesn't hurt. Impossible, Tim, you know, experiences maybe once a week diarrhea. Like that's impossible. And in the current situation right now, does that feel impossible, Tim?
Yeah, cuz what's the reality?
I haven't had a I haven't had a week like that in a long time.
So here's the thing that we step into them, or we step into is we step into the fact that here is today, Tim. And we have this this bigger version of Tim tomorrow. And today, Tim is looking at tomorrow, Tim? And there's there's a there's a there's a question. It's almost fantasy. Like I get it, my mom has chronic pain, like there are people in my world of chronic pain and like where it's just a daily experience of war with pain. And people do all kinds of things and people don't experience that don't understand it. They're like, they're like, Well, why don't why don't you just stop this or why don't you just do this you're like you don't understand these individuals are hurting all the time. It's not like they're hurting like they broke their finger. It's like they're hurting all the time from the inside out. So there's impossible Tim that sits over here. And impossible Tim we're gonna call King Tim and King Tim body inject slaves well, crumbs enter order, King Tim's got some shit handled and he's experiencing a totally different life. Do you think King Tim sees a different world than current Tim? Absolutely. Yeah, King Tim is not seeing the same world the current Tim is seeing at all. Now, how do we pull that off? Right, this becomes a question. Well, how do we pull that off? Does today Tim know how to do it?
Nope. Today didn't know. Because if today, Tim today, Tim knows drink. That's what today Tim knows. How do I deal with it? I drink. That's what I do. And I managed to do the best I can't, which was I have zero fucking judgment for you about that at all. Again, like I said, having personal relation people have crumbs. Like I get it 100% I get it. Don't get it from an experience. I get it from being in relationship with people who are going through this. Right. So there's you today and there's you tomorrow. But there is also this third element that opens up inside of this place when we get this honest. Is it there's a higher power that understands and knows the path to King Tim?
And you call whatever you called voice called God called universe called source. There's a piece and there's Tim today, that opens up with Tim tomorrow. And this version, this trifecta right here opens up the idea. And the idea is this revelation. Now people will look revelation is something religious, I can look at Revelation as something spiritual, I'm just going to have to consider the revelation is anytime something unseen becomes seen to you, it is revealed. There's a lot of shit that all of you go through. And I go through and we experience on a daily basis, that is revelation, which means something that was unknown, unseen to us, becomes revealed to us. And inside of that revealing or revelation, which again, can be really construed in a religious sense, which works fine there too. And if that works, and go in that frame, but if it doesn't work, then pull yourself out of that frame for a second or just consider revelation comes from an unseen place to the same place which is or something I don't know something I can't understand something I don't see then becomes revealed. And when results happen, that we don't understand how they happen. We call the miracles. Well, that was miraculous. That was miraculous. How is that even possible? That's miraculous. Like when today Tim becomes Kington when current Tim becomes King 10 people that that was fucking miraculous. But it's not miraculous to the voice. It's just miraculous to who
Today Tim today Tim,
you got it. You nailed it just today Tim cuz today Tim's like I can't even fucking Imagine that. I can't even imagine it and because I cannot even imagine it. I'm going to not do anything about it. I'm going to go back into I'm going to go back into today Tim because today Tim is smart. Today Tim is wonderful because today Tim got us to where we are but today Tim cannot get us to tomorrow. Because King Tim is in impossible reality. Impossible. It's impossible to get there. With being current Tim. Current Tim has some patterns, some routines some habits and some stories that have to change in order for today Tim to become tomorrow King Tim the impossible becomes possible through revelation. The possible becomes the impossible becomes possible through revelation but we work through the process the way you guys are doing here and today. Here is who I am impossible to impossible Tim is I'm going to bed at night and I'm not using the goddamn tennis ball in the sock on laying down at night and I can go to sleep. Shit dogs might be right there with I'm laying down I'm going to sleep and not hurting and I sleep well six, seven hours straight. Love that. And you know what else the modality gets in check and maybe have it once a week. I can manage I can handle that for now. That means my bowel movements are in control internal system working better pains gone I'm sleeping well. Those things happen alone here a different human being. You are just a different fucked alcohol just you'd be different human being alcohol, no alcohol. Those two things happen with matter. You may keep drinking me knocking drinking, but nonetheless there is a path to get there.
There's a path to pull this off. sign on. I've watched this happen with a couple of guys who promise to
didn't happen overnight, but there's a way to get there and that means that there is a place that you must start and there's an idea that comes from voice sitting inside of this trifecta. So Tim, here's what we're gonna do, we're gonna do a short little meditation together. And all of you are going to close your eyes and go through the same experience. You're not a boy or son, this is not some porn site you pulled up, watch me and Tim talk to each other. Right? This isn't like talking porn, where you get to watch we're gonna all be engaged in what it means is everybody's gonna close your eyes, close your eyes, Tim, close your eyes, close your eyes. And Tim, go and take your glasses off, shut glasses down on the counter, just so that you are just you and nothing else in the way all the rest of your closure, I'm serious, play wrong, be part of this be part of this for yourself. I'm going to guide him through through this meditation. But at the same time, I want you to take yourself through the same process because what we're going to enter into is what I call the IM mastermind. It's a place where there are answers that we cannot normally find. You do not always have to close your eyes to find this. But this is how I get leverage on myself. It's how the men and women a warrior over the years have get leverage on themselves is they established the base of the Impossible Impossible. And then that place asked for simple guidance on what needs to happen first. What is the idea that is most clear there. So Tim with me and all the rest of you, we're going to take a deep breath in deep breath and Tim
And deep breath in
and deep breath in
and one more.
and Tim in your mind's eye, I want you to bring yourself here to this room that you're sitting in the chair that you're sitting in the desk, you're sitting in the room that you're sitting in that place so once you notice what you notice about the last images you saw before you close your eyes. in your mind's eye, I want you to turn in your chair and look around the room. And notice what you notice the things that were there before you sat down, they're still there. Tim inside that room, I want you to go find the door. So in your mind's eye, stand up from your chair and walk over to the door, grab the handle and open it up and exit the room. Now you know what you notice outside that room, I want you to continue to find yourself moving in that room until you get out of the building. So if that means you take a left grade, do that if you're in take a right to that, but find yourself out of the building. Now that you outside the building, standing down in the steps and find yourself on a sidewalk standing in front of the building could be your house could be an office, but find yourself standing on a sidewalk in front of this building. As you do I want you to look across the street. Across the street, you see someone standing there. But someone standing there is very different than you and yet similar to you, you begin to move right on the sidewalk walking. And as you do this individual across the street mirrors you and follows you going the same direction, you stop noticing that he's following you. And you begin to move back to your left. Almost not believing what you're saying. Now as you move back to your left, you notice that he's following you again. Continue doing this, go back to your right and notice these following. Raise up your right hand and notice that his right hand raises up also. Then raise up your left hand and notice that his left hand raises up also bring your hands down and notice again that he's just mirroring everything you're saying and doing. You notice over the left side, there's a chair. It's a white chair, just sitting on the sidewalk. You didn't notice it before. But you see it now I want you to walk over and sit down in that chair. As you do notice it across the way, this being sits down in a chair also. But you notice that the chair that he stands in is very different than the chair that you sit in. You sit in a nice simple chair that you would use at a desk. He began to walk up some stairs, about 12 of them until he found what it looks like a throne. And he sat down. He's now elevated and you notice this about 10 to 12 feet above the ground, but still across the street. As he looks at you sitting in the chair and you look at him, there's this distinct reality inside of this connection. There is something that he has to tell you. I want you to listen inside of your head. Notice what he's saying. He repeats it again. He's not moving his mouth but somehow he's able to play some thoughts into your mind. Notice what he said. Notice what he's telling you Deep breath in
and deep breath in.
The same time as this message has been relayed from this version of you to you, I want you to notice that up above you, there is a light that begins to descend from up above. This light itself as it moves itself closer and closer to you does not bring any fear with it whatsoever. And the ox actually brings the opposite, which is a curiosity about what this could be. As it gets closer and closer, you also notice something changing in the way you feel about yourself. There is an energy that seems to begin pulsating from the inside out, surrounding an engulfing you. You notice also that the connections you feel to this individual cross the street seems to now be more intense than it's been ever yet. inside of that, you begin to look across the street, even though this fireball of light continues to descend from the sky, down towards your bolt. And as you look at him, you see a beam of light that is connected between you and him directly across the street, entering in from your chest and his and his back to you. As you feel this light connection between you two, it becomes very, very clear to you that what you're seeing is an individual that is you an individual that is you only different. The message that he said before continues to repeat itself over and over again inside of your head. You look back up into the sky and notice this fireball that is continuing to descend toward you. It's not fearful, there's no tear in it, there's no confusion in it. And yet it settles right down above you both this giant ball of fire, as fire itself has no face as fire itself has no name. But you notice real quickly that this power ball of fire is something far power powerful than you or the version of you across the street. as assistant hovers about 10 feet up above you there's a warmth that enters between the both of you and the fire. And you look and notice that another beam of light only this time made a fire begins to connect you to the fire the fire to the man across the street, and between you and that man. It's in this moment that you for the very first time become deeply aware that you are sitting in a trifecta with yourself.
You look to the fire and you ask one simple question. What must I do? First? The fire responds with an answer. The answer itself is clear. And it's simple. There's no complication to it at all. You ask again is this all and the fire again placing the thought inside your mind and chest and heart
And the instruction comes equal to it's at that time that you start to notice that the version of you across the street that it put a thought into your mind that what he had told you is very similar to what the fire has spoken to you. But the fire has brought a simplicity to this that didn't exist before. A simple statement and a simple action. A simple instruction of what you must do first. And deep breath in
And deep breath in.
noticed him the man across the street is gone. And that the ball of fire is gone. That the chair is gone. And that you are no longer sitting outside but you're right back in the chair that you're sitting in now.
Only sitting in this chair. There's nothing in your mind but a giant blank canvas and one simple set of instructions.
sharing with me for real keeping your eyes shot. Can you see the instruction Yes or no?
I can't see the instruction but I did hear something from my other self and you The fire okay
carry with me what that was
they both said be still uniform I'm gonna have to figure out what that means but they both said he still
deep breath in
open your eyes
want to write something up here interesting read those statements
he's still in know that I am God he's still and know that I am he's still in know that he's still a no he's still he
do it again pause between each statement
you still know that I am God wait come on be still and know that I am third one you still know that fourth one we still know that one be still
and the last one
What do you see here
hold on a second
seems to be circles with pain story and power written on it I'm guessing that I can break through a barrier to gain power by through my story
am I telling my story my being still
instill in what drawing lots of arrows to help you be still in your What?
My pain okay?
choice with pain one I can run from pain or two I can run into pain. You know this is a runner. Yes. What's the difference about running into pain versus running from pain?
Now you can embrace it when you're when you're when you're well you know there's two you're a long distance runner. you embrace the pain when you're running, your mind goes somewhere else.
So I'm going to give the model of instruction. Your entire idea stack that you're going to work through tonight is going to be absolutely fuel by uncovering this storyline. Have you consider that inside the pain and this is why you brought up the idea of alcohol multiple times because the alcohol is covering up your ability to learn from the pain.
If pain is the gateway to the power, but I continue to sedate the pain that I continue to cut myself off from the power. Inside, I'll learn from the pain, hence the pain continues to repeat itself. So I'm gonna have you consider something radical. At the gateway to you knowing what to do is inside of the pain, and the instruction you got was simple was to be in the brain. And listen,
I'm taking notes, that's why I'm
looking at you. You don't worry about it. Welcome to zoom. It's a it's a weird scenario. So I get it. I'm gonna have you ever seen this? Inside of chat? I'm gonna you're seeing this type in Yes, if you're seeing this. Okay? get rolling in. Okay. So there's a specific assignment that we all have, the assignment itself is going to be completing what we call an idea stack. Now, we're going to be putting this assignment up later today, because of my schedule for today, I've got a 10 o'clock, I get to jump into with our students inside of our warrior shield group. And then I've got one o'clock to jump in with our students and wear shelter. And then after that, I'm going to summarize the rest of it. And we'll put up some examples. So for today, you all have an assignment and the assignments going to be simple, you're going to be going through the process of dealing with what we call the primary idea given to you the idea that was given to Tim was B. Still, that was the idea. We don't know what that idea is. So he's going to complete a series of questions around that instruction, which was Be still, how many of you going through that experience in that meditation, you got something for yourself? Meaning there was something that came up for you to as an answer type in me, type in me if that happened for you. Type in me. Okay, beautiful. So look at that, Tim, you're not alone in it. Yes, you guys will have a recording on this. So my encouragement, I will do something special with this later today. Because I think there's a way for me to do this meditation for you guys to be able to find this. I do a version of this meditation every day. It's how I know what to do every day. I know where the long term King is that I'm moving towards. And then I'm getting instruction from the guiding systems inside of me, me, impossible, me and God every day, it may not take 20 minutes, it may take two minutes, it may take 20 seconds. But nonetheless, I'm stepping into that pocket stacking. So the actions that I take are fueled and backed by a fire of Revelation. I'm not just pulling shit out of my ass. So when people like Well, how do you know to do that? I was like, because I've done the work to know. And then I trust and I go I don't know what the long term solution is for Tim. We do know that the first stage for Tim is that the his trifecta mastermind gave him one simple idea. Be still. And Tim your first response was
I don't know what that means. Yeah,
beautiful. And now we got the source we need for an idea stack because the idea is this week Tim's biggest action is to be still with the pain and we're gonna find out what that is. So ladies, Jim we are done for today I got a second assignment I'm going to lay out to you guys is I'm going to leave some instruction with it because I didn't get chance to get to the full instruction of it. Here's the challenge I have with training is I can't lead people like I can't lead people on hook meaning I can't lead people uncooked and Tim needed to go a certain place even though it was in complete conflict to where my brain said the plan was what I need to teach you guys about how to your assignment for today. So I'm going to come back with some stuff later today. That will update to make sure that you're all clear and some examples with how to use the idea stack process. But Tim, you're gonna be the one we're gonna bring back in you and Kyle tomorrow to kind of see where you guys both progressed inside of your idea stack so thank you for being here brother couldn't kill you camera. Thanks, girl. You got it. Okay, ladies, gentlemen, I got a roll. I've got I got several 100 students waiting for me in another room and a different podcast studio here in my in my offices. And we're gonna get after that call. So thank you for being here. You're amazing. I feel like we're making some great progress. trust the process on this for the week. This is gonna feel weird as fuck. You're gonna be like, What the fuck are we doing? Trust me, I'm helping you get weapons, not just how to get motivated. I want you to have weapons to be able to do this shit long term for yourself. So have a great day. We'll have some updates come out to you guys later today. And I look forward to see you guys here tomorrow morning at 830. That brings a close here to our second call the conversation of connection